White Washing the Sex Field & 50 episodes of #TWiBAfterDark

50th-TwoToneCupcakeI’m so excited that TWiB After Dark has made it through 50 amazing episodes! Thank you all so much for listening and supporting. We welcomed two very special guests for this episode both members of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network , Aida Manduley (@neuronbomb) and Tamara Williams Van Horn (@TamVanHorn).

 

We talked about the new UK porn bans, 3-D printed sex toys, and had an in depth discussion on supporting and boosting the voices of women of color in the sexual heath field and how our absence directly impacts society’s view on human sexuality.

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A Special TWIB After Dark

This week I had the pleaser of co-hosting TWiB After Dark with the actress and TWIB contributor Pia Glenn!  Let me tell ya’ll about Pia, she’s awesome she is proof that we are all made of stars. ( Of course me and you are made of that trash planet from Transformers the Movie, she is made from a planet that’s all diamonds like that episode of Dr. Who)  She is genetically superior being who is gracing us with the chance to be in her presence.

Not only can you be aurally pleasured by Pia’s voice on this week’s After Dark we got to speak to some of the ladies of Everyday Whorephobia @_peech and @MeliMachiavelli.  I’m so happy I was able to talk with them about the murders of  and spread the word about their memorial fund.

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Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia

When I was interviewed for an article about Black sex workers last week,  it wasn’t the story of an actress and her white boyfriend that was on my mind. It was the murders of  and .

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“the bodies of Angelia Mangum, 19, and Tjhisha Ball, 18 were spotted on the side of a road around 1 a.m. yesterday. The bodies were reportedly bound with zip ties, naked and on top of one another. Read more at EBONY

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It wasn’t just the ghastly way they were discovered or the brutal way they were murdered it the reaction of civvies and the news media at large. Several news sources published their mug shots, identified them only as strippers in that demeaning tone that stopped just short of ‘they asked for it’. Continue reading


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Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14

I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work  . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya,  and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :

Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space.  We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter.  
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N’jaila’s Mailbag: Is Porn Sexist?

Many moons ago I got an interesting Ask in my tumblr. While this submission wasn’t actually a question so much as a person trying to BLOW MY MIND with their amazing logic. I thought I should share it.

romantic-love-letter-ideas“The porn industry is male dominated (made up primarily of male pornographers/film directors/producers/editors/casting directors) and is geared towards a straight male audience. Just because some women and some queer individuals consume pornographic content (much of which is becoming increasingly violent and aggressive, especially towards women) does not make it ‘feminist,’ or ‘ethical.'”

 

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Beyoncé Cums Fancy, as Expected.

This isn't another Beyoncé think piece, this is a thinly veiled excuse to  think about expensive things sliding in and out of Beyoncé.

This isn’t another Beyoncé think piece, it’s a thinly veiled excuse to think about expensive things sliding in and out of Beyoncé.

Folks are clutching their pearls after married adult Beyoncé allegedly spent over $6,000 USD on Boxing Day at sex shop Babeland New York.  Let me tell you, its REALLY easy to drop term bill or two there. Personally I love Babeland, they’re the only brick and mortar sex shop I recommend in my area, I also know that while welcoming to beginners it’s a candy shop for those of us with genitals that require nothing but the best.

As I wrote before every industry has its luxury items, sex toys are no different. If you’re Beyoncé are you going to settle for Kia Sport of vibrators or an Ashton Martin?  Exactly. How far could six grand take you? Well the express lane, I’m talking maybe 10 items or less. Here’s 3 dream baskets for Mrs and Mr. Carter Knowles. Continue reading


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Go Fuck Yourself 2013.

Go Away 2013, no one likes you.

Go Away 2013, no one likes you.

2013 was a bag dicks. If 2013 was a frail old man I would gently push him so he would fall down, while he was on the ground I would glare at him as a poked him with a blunt stick.  2013 for me was the human experience equivalent of Drake’s eyebrows.  You might have gathered from the whopping 10 posts I made all year that shit was somewhat real for me this year. 2013 taught me that yes, failure is an option.

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N’jaila on TBGWT Podcasts

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I was a guest on the always hilarious The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast, hosted by Rod and Karen.  I had such a fun time talking about dongs, packing cocks and sitting at the dojo of the net troll master.  If there is one thing you will learn from this podcast is “Don’t start none, won’t be none”, fortunately for the listening audience a very unlucky trio of dudebros learns that lesson the hard way.


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A Sad Day for My Vagina

"My kid's half Latino, Asshole"

“My kid is half Latino, Asshole”

Twitter is where your childhood and celebrity crushes go to die, resurrect like Romero zombie and bite you right in the feels.  When Kal Penn came out as a supporter of NYC’s Stop and Frisk and the racist ideology behind it I was forced to give up my teenaged dreams of him one day touching my heart and dick punching my cervix.

My reaction to his tweets, were emotional to say the least.  I invite you to the theatre of my mind as I went through al the stages of grief when your shows his ass as a bigot apologist. By friendly request I’ve storyfied my break down.

Click to view my vaginal, mental and ideological anguish. 

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Now here is me protesting Stop and Frisk through song with the rap king of twitter Elon James White.
 

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Toy Review: Rock Chick

IMAG0379I’ve tried a lot of different pleasure objects and I always wanted  to try hands-free vibrators.  There’s a certain appeal to being able to orgasm without all that carpal tunnel fears f’n up your steeze. So the Rock Chick by Rocks-off seems to be a breath of fresh air.  Continue reading


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I’m Speaking at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit!

badge-horizI should have posted about this a million years ago but yes, I’m speaking at the Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit in Washington, DC. Continue reading


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Blogger Came for our Wallets, Tumblr Comes for Our Voices

tumblr_mq5di0eI8U1qjma8no1_400Go to the search/ track bar, type in “Sex Positive”, recoil in horror as you realize that Tumblr has decided that Sex Positivity needs to be censored.  A system that hides discussions about sex being innately neither good or bad but a part of human nature isn’t serving the greater good. Continue reading


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Attention Adult Bloggers On Blogger You Must Take Down Ads

Nope, you'll have to find another way to fab with the latest technology.

Nope, you’ll have to find another way to fap with the latest technology.

Earlier this afternoon I received a message from google like many adult bloggers that use and once used the platform. Good is updating it TOS and has decided that is will not host blogs with adult ads.  I can’t say that I’m too shocked I expected an announcement like this right after google put an axe on adult apps for the upcoming google Glass.

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NSA Whistleblower’s Girlfriend NOT Stripping is News?

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This is a serious article of journalism from Salon.com.  This is the world we live in.

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Yellowface and Asian America’s Porn Problem

stars_costume01Yellow Face isn’t okay, not on stage, not on Halloween and not in film – and yes that includes porn.  So if you are going to have any hand in creating  a porn “parody” of smash hit show that has a fan favorite character who is Korean American, hiring a white actor taping his eyes back and smearing what looks like cheeto dust on his face is just not going to sit well with people.

People will be upset because it’s racist mockery of Asian features and if there’s one group that doesn’t have options when it comes to porn its Asian Americans. Continue reading


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BlasianBytch.com 3rd Blogaversary

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And I’m still not so good at this, but experience is always fulfilling and this blog is a wonderful way to chart my own growth. I went back and read every post. You can really see my attitude become more and more positive toward sex.  I went from going OMG sex toys are CRAZY to … I wonder how hot I would look with this jeweled butt plug in. So I’m still here , still growing, still changing and thank you for hanging with me along the ride.


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