Gigolo 2.0: How Garren James Built A Dudes for Ladies Escort Empire

Gigolos-Shirtless-SHOWTIMEFor six seasons on Showtimes Gigolos, Garren James has let us into the world of male escorts that specialize in offering companionship to women. In a world of constant online harassment and unsolicited dick pics destroying our phones like an angry genital tsunami, James has managed to get women to pay for male attention.  I got to speak with James about how Cowboys4Angels came to be and how it works.  Continue reading “Gigolo 2.0: How Garren James Built A Dudes for Ladies Escort Empire”

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Is the Election Impacting Your Sex Life?

I was guest host for Hotline, Fusion’s live sexual health call-in show hosted by Cleo Stiller.  I rarely talk about my personal relationships – even on After Dark, but I thought this was an important topic.  We talk about so many aspects of how elections or politics in general impact our sex lives.

People buy into the idea that love, or at least passion will conquer all, but I think it’s unrealistic to expect to  keep up a healthy sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t share your core values.  Especially when those values include things like equal rights, or not wanting your extrajudicial killing justified by your skin color.  There’s nothing wrong with admitting that certain politics dry your walls or itch your balls.  I feel sick when I think about getting stroked and providing pleasure to a bigot that thinks basic human rights are up for debate.

I’d rather go orgasm free than contribute to the ejaculation of a person with a hateful heart.

Have you ever had to dip out on someone because of conflicting political beliefs? Tell me about it in the comments!

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You Knew This Day Would Come, Get Ready for Hamiltoe

Like this but with fucking.

Unless you’ve lived under a rock or just awoke from a sitcom coma you fell into January 2015 you’ve heard of Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton. The surprise broadway sensation based on a mix tape inspired by Ron Chernow’s biography of Alexander Hamilton recently won 11 Tony’s, a Pulitzer and a Grammy.  Since we live in a the darkest timeline anything getting this much media buzz gets a porn “parody” treatment. Continue reading “You Knew This Day Would Come, Get Ready for Hamiltoe”

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Finally a Good Day to Be Black & Sexy For Me! N’jaila Rhee on Dope Deconstruction

I did my own makeup in the bathroom of Theatre Arts Building of Hunter College. I hadn’t been back there since I stopped auditioning for student films when I was 15.

091615-centric-entertainment-black-and-sexy-tv-logoI had the pleasure of being  a guest on Black & Sexy TV‘s new original show Dope Deconstruction.   The show is helmed by Shan & Sam from the Inner Ho Uprising Podcast.  It was a great opportunity to talk about sex workers rights, belly worship shows and how to have great phone sex.

I’m not used to being the one that has to answer questions but I had a wonderful time. Sam & Shan were fun, witty and we had a fascinating conversation.  I’m still getting used to being in front of a camera while not getting someone off. There’s something empowering about talking to young sex positive people.

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Toy Review: Womanizer W100

Whew, It’s been a while since I’ve found a product that got me excited enough to want to review it. I was fortunate enough to be contacted by EPI24 to try out their product. What interested me most about the product was their PleasureAir technology that promised a new way to stimulate and produce multiple orgasms. Unfortunate name aside I couldn’t wait to give the Womanizer a try.

You can watch my unboxing and first reaction after the jump.  Continue reading “Toy Review: Womanizer W100”

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TWiB After Dark Returns with a BANG!

Untitled-3573I’m so happy that I’ll be back on track with my podcast TWiB After Dark!  Last week I recorded the first episode of 2016 and I think we started the year off with a bang , well not so much an real bang. I actually spent the first episode singing the ballad of my un-fucked vagina.  Sad puss aside I’m very happy with the line up I have for the first  guest this year.  I’ve had folks asking me to have him on since last year but – now its going to happen!

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Twitter Has Made It Impossible to Ignore the Reality of Sex Work

ea8843aa135b22194ec27410e02f565bLux Alptraum wrote this great piece on how Twitter has impacted the visibility of Sex Workers and how that affects us.  The article also Charlotte Shane and Anlina Sheng of the Winnipeg Working Group for Sex Workers’ Rights .   You can read the article



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black-trans-SW-lives-matterWhen I wrote about the Daniel Holtzclaw case for TitsandSass  I was happy the piece was generally well received, but sadly there have been ignorant people who felt that including instances where Black trans women were violated somehow detracted from the article. Those people are assholes.


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Daniel Holtzclaw, Black Women and the Myth of Police Protection

Daniel Holtzclaw is hopefully going to spend the rest of his natural life in jail after targeting low-income black women. happybirthdayrapistpieceofshitIf you listen to my podcast After Dark or follow me on twitter, you’ve heard about the case of serial rapist former police Oklahoma City officer Daniel Holtzclaw.  I had the honor of expressing some of the many complicated feelings stirred up by this trial, its coverage and what it means for Black sex workers. Please head over to TitsandSass to read it :


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Whoremones Comedy Show with a Special Q&A with MOI Sept 10

HOLD ONTO YOUR FUCKIN’ BUTTS, I’m coming your way Connecticut!


I was so happy to be invited to take part in the Whormornes Comedy Show. I’ll be doing a (hopefully raunchy) Q&A with the audience and all these funny ladies! Get TICKETS HERE

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TWiB After Dark – As Seen on Buzzfeed!

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New (ish) Interviews with ME!

11076236_10202626860872659_7303463830415808914_nSo its been awhile. I’ve come down with a very bad case of “Everything I Write is Poops” but working on that to bring you guy more delicious content.  If you have missed me I wanted to give you a chance to listen or read to some of my latest interviews.

I had the honor of being interviewed by the Asian American Writers Workshop’s  Ester Wang, talking about everything from race to sex work and my love of New York City.

If you missed my February appearance on the awesome Sex Love Joy podcast hosted by Anaín Bjorkquist  now is the time to get some more N’jaila in your ear.

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I’ll be welcoming Flash Brown (@flashbrownxxx) as a guest on Twib After Dark on Feb. 25th and to celebrate one of my favorite performers we are giving away one of his toys! Flash Brown4

Molded from his impressive 11.5 inch penis, these toys come in several varieties, squirting vibrating and always filling.Flash Brown Vibrator


Flash Brown hails from Memphis, and played professional basketball overseas and semi-pro basketball in the United States before entering the world of adult entertainment. His impressive 11.5” cock has made him a hit with fans around the globe, earning him an XBIZ Best Male Newcomer Award and several Urban X Awards. Nominations from AVN Awards, The Sex Awards, and XRCO prove his on-screen prowess.

If you have any questions for Flash please leave them in the comments below if you wish to enter the give away you can do it right here:

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TWiB After Dark Returns!

Its the first After Dark of the year and Aaron and I have a whole heap of fuckery to wade through.  Not only did we talk about the various sex tech debuting at CES 2015 but we talked about what apps and doodads will help your future relationship.

A screengrab from Bangbro’s “Protestor Exercises Her Right to Take Cock!” because they have never been shit and they never will be.

Yeah, that’s a thing that several people agreed to do. Yes, that’s a woman holding a sign with Eric Garner’s last words misspelled on them.  You can hear me flip out below


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White Washing the Sex Field & 50 episodes of #TWiBAfterDark

50th-TwoToneCupcakeI’m so excited that TWiB After Dark has made it through 50 amazing episodes! Thank you all so much for listening and supporting. We welcomed two very special guests for this episode both members of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network , Aida Manduley (@neuronbomb) and Tamara Williams Van Horn (@TamVanHorn).


We talked about the new UK porn bans, 3-D printed sex toys, and had an in depth discussion on supporting and boosting the voices of women of color in the sexual heath field and how our absence directly impacts society’s view on human sexuality.

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A Special TWIB After Dark

This week I had the pleaser of co-hosting TWiB After Dark with the actress and TWIB contributor Pia Glenn!  Let me tell ya’ll about Pia, she’s awesome she is proof that we are all made of stars. ( Of course me and you are made of that trash planet from Transformers the Movie, she is made from a planet that’s all diamonds like that episode of Dr. Who)  She is genetically superior being who is gracing us with the chance to be in her presence.

Not only can you be aurally pleasured by Pia’s voice on this week’s After Dark we got to speak to some of the ladies of Everyday Whorephobia @_peech and @MeliMachiavelli.  I’m so happy I was able to talk with them about the murders of  and spread the word about their memorial fund.

Listen to After Dark #41: The Red Wedding

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Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia

When I was interviewed for an article about Black sex workers last week,  it wasn’t the story of an actress and her white boyfriend that was on my mind. It was the murders of  and .

“the bodies of Angelia Mangum, 19, and Tjhisha Ball, 18 were spotted on the side of a road around 1 a.m. yesterday. The bodies were reportedly bound with zip ties, naked and on top of one another. Read more at EBONY

Donate to the families of#TjhishaAndAngelia HERE

It wasn’t just the ghastly way they were discovered or the brutal way they were murdered it the reaction of civvies and the news media at large. Several news sources published their mug shots, identified them only as strippers in that demeaning tone that stopped just short of ‘they asked for it’. Continue reading “Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia”

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Student Activists Mourn Michael Brown With #HandsUpWalkOut

Students around the country staged a #HandsUpWalkOut on the day Michael Brown was laid to rest. Brown would have started his freshman year at a local trade college on Aug 9  had he not been shot six times by police officer Darren Wilson. Brown was autopsied thrice before his funeral.

Activists from Freedom Side, Dream Defenders, and Hands Up United coordinated the event to show solidarity with the Brown family and others slain by police. According to a #HandsUpWalkOut action toolkit available on, the walkouts are not protests or rallies, but “an event to mourn the loss of community members.” Organizers supplied a list of suggested post-walkout activities, such as reading names of the deceased, asking participants to voice their feelings and inquire about the emotional well-being of fellow students, and singing of “freedom songs.”

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Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14

I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work  . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya,  and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :

Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space.  We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter.  
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