I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya, and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :
Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space. We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter. Continue reading →
Many moons ago I got an interesting Ask in my tumblr. While this submission wasn’t actually a question so much as a person trying to BLOW MY MIND with their amazing logic. I thought I should share it.
“The porn industry is male dominated (made up primarily of male pornographers/film directors/producers/editors/casting directors) and is geared towards a straight male audience. Just because some women and some queer individuals consume pornographic content (much of which is becoming increasingly violent and aggressive, especially towards women) does not make it ‘feminist,’ or ‘ethical.’”
Folks are clutching their pearls after married adult Beyoncé allegedly spent over $6,000 USD on Boxing Day at sex shop Babeland New York. Let me tell you, its REALLY easy to drop term bill or two there. Personally I love Babeland, they’re the only brick and mortar sex shop I recommend in my area, I also know that while welcoming to beginners it’s a candy shop for those of us with genitals that require nothing but the best.
As I wrote before every industry has its luxury items, sex toys are no different. If you’re Beyoncé are you going to settle for Kia Sport of vibrators or an Ashton Martin? Exactly. How far could six grand take you? Well the express lane, I’m talking maybe 10 items or less. Here’s 3 dream baskets for Mrs and Mr. Carter Knowles. Continue reading →
2013 was a bag dicks. If 2013 was a frail old man I would gently push him so he would fall down, while he was on the ground I would glare at him as a poked him with a blunt stick. 2013 for me was the human experience equivalent of Drake’s eyebrows. You might have gathered from the whopping 10 posts I made all year that shit was somewhat real for me this year. 2013 taught me that yes, failure is an option.
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I was a guest on the always hilarious The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast, hosted by Rod and Karen. I had such a fun time talking about dongs, packing cocks and sitting at the dojo of the net troll master. If there is one thing you will learn from this podcast is “Don’t start none, won’t be none”, fortunately for the listening audience a very unlucky trio of dudebros learns that lesson the hard way.
Twitter is where your childhood and celebrity crushes go to die, resurrect like Romero zombie and bite you right in the feels. When Kal Penn came out as a supporter of NYC’s Stop and Frisk and the racist ideology behind it I was forced to give up my teenaged dreams of him one day touching my heart and dick punching my cervix.
My reaction to his tweets, were emotional to say the least. I invite you to the theatre of my mind as I went through al the stages of grief when your shows his ass as a bigot apologist. By friendly request I’ve storyfied my break down.
I’ve tried a lot of different pleasure objects and I always wanted to try hands-free vibrators. There’s a certain appeal to being able to orgasm without all that carpal tunnel fears f’n up your steeze. So the Rock Chick by Rocks-off seems to be a breath of fresh air. Continue reading →
Go to the search/ track bar, type in “Sex Positive”, recoil in horror as you realize that Tumblr has decided that Sex Positivity needs to be censored. A system that hides discussions about sex being innately neither good or bad but a part of human nature isn’t serving the greater good. Continue reading →
Earlier this afternoon I received a message from google like many adult bloggers that use and once used the platform. Good is updating it TOS and has decided that is will not host blogs with adult ads. I can’t say that I’m too shocked I expected an announcement like this right after google put an axe on adult apps for the upcoming google Glass.
Yellow Face isn’t okay, not on stage, not on Halloween and not in film – and yes that includes porn. So if you are going to have any hand in creating a porn “parody” of smash hit show that has a fan favorite character who is Korean American, hiring a white actor taping his eyes back and smearing what looks like cheeto dust on his face is just not going to sit well with people.
People will be upset because it’s racist mockery of Asian features and if there’s one group that doesn’t have options when it comes to porn its Asian Americans. Continue reading →
And I’m still not so good at this, but experience is always fulfilling and this blog is a wonderful way to chart my own growth. I went back and read every post. You can really see my attitude become more and more positive toward sex. I went from going OMG sex toys are CRAZY to … I wonder how hot I would look with this jeweled butt plug in. So I’m still here , still growing, still changing and thank you for hanging with me along the ride.
This Exxxotica was rough, and not just because I had out-of-date malfunctioning equipment, a lung infection and serious case of stage fright – the entire state was fresh out of a state of emergency Post- Hurricane Sandy.
There is a widget in the sidebar for donations, and you can still donate in all of the regular ways. Anyone who donates over $50 dollars will get 15 min cam date with ME!
If you want to know what these donations will go towards, mostly it will be for transportation. I also plan on making 2-3 short videos that will be dealing with Body Acceptance and Sexuality, Asian American Masculinity and Women of Color and Sexual Self Identity.
I want to conduct better interviews with better equipment. I’ve always been using a 40 dollar mic, and a tiny point and shoot HD cam which has been working but I want to step it up! I want to be able to do interviews on and off site with better lighting and a nicer background. I also would love to be able to podcast interviews and news stories. I’m a journalist at heart and there’s no denying it. I want to bring high quality content that will have the ability to better discuss important topics.
If you want to see some of the products that I would like for BlasianBytch.com check out my Audiovisual Wishlist on Amazon.
I also want to give my readers a chance to ask their favorite adult star a question so If you have a question you would like answered submit it and the name of the performer you want me to ask it to on NjailaRhee.com. Questions that are out right disrespectful will be ignored and for the love of all that is holy don’t ask me to show anyone your penis.
Better pull out before the bitch gets pregnant. But seriously, Exxxotica is the best fucking thing to come to Jersey and its almost like Chrismas for me because unlike real Christmas it’s not mind-numbingly depressing when my Mom doesn’t call me.
On Nov 9-11 Exxxotica will return to Edison NJ as a celebration of sex and the adult industry. In its 5th year the expo will continue its sexual carnival feel and female friendly atmosphere. There will be more seminars directed towards civilians explaining kink, sexual health and breaking into the adult industry. There will be a full stage show along with merchant booths for romantic aides and all types of sexy wares.
While I was sick about 2 months ago someone left a pretty interesting comment on one of my toy reviews. It was pretty interesting so I’ll lend my two cents.
“Hey N’Jaila, I was wondering what is your take on racism in escort communities. Sorry this isn’t on topic relative to the review, but I’ve been trying to google it since my friend was talking to me about the “no black men” policy some escorts have. I even read a blog post from a white escort, and while I know women are entitled to do what they want with their bodies and to keep themselves safe, especially in that line of work, it just seems all kind of wrong to me. I mean, we don’t even need anti-miscegenation laws or the sometimes seen lynch mobs anymore b/c people self-select, and in very predictable ways, on and off line. In blatantly racist ways. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about b/c I’ve considered escort work and it’s difficult to navigate this troubling dynamic. And of course as a black escort I’m worried if I could even make a living. Cause the discrimination goes both ways, I’d imagine white escorts get the most business in spite of age and appearance at time. Oh and I realize you may not know much about escort side of work, but it’d still like to hear based on your experience, especially as a woman of color.” Continue reading →