Fuck you, I’ll fix my own fucking site.
People buy into the idea that love, or at least passion will conquer all, but I think it’s unrealistic to expect to keep up a healthy sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t share your core values. Especially when those values include things like equal rights, or not wanting your extrajudicial killing justified by your skin color. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that certain politics dry your walls or itch your balls. I feel sick when I think about getting stroked and providing pleasure to a bigot that thinks basic human rights are up for debate.
I’d rather go orgasm free than contribute to the ejaculation of a person with a hateful heart.
Have you ever had to dip out on someone because of conflicting political beliefs? Tell me about it in the comments!
Unless you’ve lived under a rock or just awoke from a sitcom coma you fell into January 2015 you’ve heard of Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton. The surprise broadway sensation based on a mix tape inspired by Ron Chernow’s biography of Alexander Hamilton recently won 11 Tony’s, a Pulitzer and a Grammy. Since we live in a the darkest timeline anything getting this much media buzz gets a porn “parody” treatment. Continue reading “You Knew This Day Would Come, Get Ready for Hamiltoe”
I had the pleasure of being a guest on Black & Sexy TV‘s new original show Dope Deconstruction. The show is helmed by Shan & Sam from the Inner Ho Uprising Podcast. It was a great opportunity to talk about sex workers rights, belly worship shows and how to have great phone sex.
I’m not used to being the one that has to answer questions but I had a wonderful time. Sam & Shan were fun, witty and we had a fascinating conversation. I’m still getting used to being in front of a camera while not getting someone off. There’s something empowering about talking to young sex positive people.
You can watch my unboxing and first reaction after the jump. Continue reading “Toy Review: Womanizer W100”
I’m so happy that I’ll be back on track with my podcast TWiB After Dark! Last week I recorded the first episode of 2016 and I think we started the year off with a bang , well not so much an real bang. I actually spent the first episode singing the ballad of my un-fucked vagina. Sad puss aside I’m very happy with the line up I have for the first guest this year. I’ve had folks asking me to have him on since last year but – now its going to happen!
When I wrote about the Daniel Holtzclaw case for TitsandSass I was happy the piece was generally well received, but sadly there have been ignorant people who felt that including instances where Black trans women were violated somehow detracted from the article. Those people are assholes.
Daniel Holtzclaw is hopefully going to spend the rest of his natural life in jail after targeting low-income black women. If you listen to my podcast After Dark or follow me on twitter, you’ve heard about the case of serial rapist former police Oklahoma City officer Daniel Holtzclaw. I had the honor of expressing some of the many complicated feelings stirred up by this trial, its coverage and what it means for Black sex workers. Please head over to TitsandSass to read it :
HOLD ONTO YOUR FUCKIN’ BUTTS, I’m coming your way Connecticut!
I was so happy to be invited to take part in the Whormornes Comedy Show. I’ll be doing a (hopefully raunchy) Q&A with the audience and all these funny ladies! Get TICKETS HERE
So its been awhile. I’ve come down with a very bad case of “Everything I Write is Poops” but working on that to bring you guy more delicious content. If you have missed me I wanted to give you a chance to listen or read to some of my latest interviews.
I had the honor of being interviewed by the Asian American Writers Workshop’s Ester Wang, talking about everything from race to sex work and my love of New York City.
If you missed my February appearance on the awesome Sex Love Joy podcast hosted by Anaín Bjorkquist now is the time to get some more N’jaila in your ear.
I’ll be welcoming Flash Brown (@flashbrownxxx) as a guest on Twib After Dark on Feb. 25th and to celebrate one of my favorite performers we are giving away one of his toys!
Molded from his impressive 11.5 inch penis, these toys come in several varieties, squirting vibrating and always filling.
Flash Brown hails from Memphis, and played professional basketball overseas and semi-pro basketball in the United States before entering the world of adult entertainment. His impressive 11.5” cock has made him a hit with fans around the globe, earning him an XBIZ Best Male Newcomer Award and several Urban X Awards. Nominations from AVN Awards, The Sex Awards, and XRCO prove his on-screen prowess.
If you have any questions for Flash please leave them in the comments below if you wish to enter the give away you can do it right here:
Its the first After Dark of the year and Aaron and I have a whole heap of fuckery to wade through. Not only did we talk about the various sex tech debuting at CES 2015 but we talked about what apps and doodads will help your future relationship.
Yeah, that’s a thing that several people agreed to do. Yes, that’s a woman holding a sign with Eric Garner’s last words misspelled on them. You can hear me flip out below
I’m so excited that TWiB After Dark has made it through 50 amazing episodes! Thank you all so much for listening and supporting. We welcomed two very special guests for this episode both members of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network , Aida Manduley (@neuronbomb) and Tamara Williams Van Horn (@TamVanHorn).
We talked about the new UK porn bans, 3-D printed sex toys, and had an in depth discussion on supporting and boosting the voices of women of color in the sexual heath field and how our absence directly impacts society’s view on human sexuality.
This week I had the pleaser of co-hosting TWiB After Dark with the actress and TWIB contributor Pia Glenn! Let me tell ya’ll about Pia, she’s awesome she is proof that we are all made of stars. ( Of course me and you are made of that trash planet from Transformers the Movie, she is made from a planet that’s all diamonds like that episode of Dr. Who) She is genetically superior being who is gracing us with the chance to be in her presence.
Not only can you be aurally pleasured by Pia’s voice on this week’s After Dark we got to speak to some of the ladies of Everyday Whorephobia @_peech and @MeliMachiavelli. I’m so happy I was able to talk with them about the murders of
#TjhishaAndAngelia and spread the word about their memorial fund.
When I was interviewed for an article about Black sex workers last week, it wasn’t the story of an actress and her white boyfriend that was on my mind. It was the murders of
#AngeliaMangum and #TjhishaBall.
Donate to the families of#TjhishaAndAngelia HERE
Students around the country staged a #HandsUpWalkOut on the day Michael Brown was laid to rest. Brown would have started his freshman year at a local trade college on Aug 9 had he not been shot six times by police officer Darren Wilson. Brown was autopsied thrice before his funeral.
Activists from Freedom Side, Dream Defenders, and Hands Up United coordinated the event to show solidarity with the Brown family and others slain by police. According to a #HandsUpWalkOut action toolkit available on HandsUpUnited.org, the walkouts are not protests or rallies, but “an event to mourn the loss of community members.” Organizers supplied a list of suggested post-walkout activities, such as reading names of the deceased, asking participants to voice their feelings and inquire about the emotional well-being of fellow students, and singing of “freedom songs.”
I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya, and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :
Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space. We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter.
Continue reading “Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14”
Many moons ago I got an interesting Ask in my tumblr. While this submission wasn’t actually a question so much as a person trying to BLOW MY MIND with their amazing logic. I thought I should share it.
“The porn industry is male dominated (made up primarily of male pornographers/film directors/producers/editors/casting directors) and is geared towards a straight male audience. Just because some women and some queer individuals consume pornographic content (much of which is becoming increasingly violent and aggressive, especially towards women) does not make it ‘feminist,’ or ‘ethical.'”