I know for many I might be a strange woman, I’m a Black identified woman who through fate and circumstance found myself involved with almost exclusively Asian men. I don’t think this makes me any kind of expert on Asian Male Black Women relations but J.T the Asian Playboy asked me to write and so I shall.
I think the first thing that should be obvious is that like “Asians” there a wide range of cultures that fall under the umbrella of “Black” and those culture effect people but at the end of the day we are all individuals. There is no monolithic hive of thought governing the thoughts, desires and personalities of all Black women. So take everything I write with that in mind.
There are three basic things I think all the Asian men who appealed to me and eventually got the booty mastered and I’ll try to explain them to you. First, they were never douche bags about race. Second they made an effort to try to understand some of our cultural differences. Lastly, they were comfortable being who they were and respectful of their own people and culture.
It’s easy for people to assume that just because two people in a relationship are not the same race that somehow they’ve discovered the cure for racism, I know first hand that’s not the case. Plenty of men that chose to date interracially can be total cunts when it comes to issues of race, some without even realizing it.
It can be little things like turning to the hip-hop station that you would never listen to as soon as I get into the car. A pretty solid rule of life is if phrases like “boo”, “girlfriend” or, “oh no he didn’t” aren’t in your everyday vocabulary don’t try to adopt them to be “down”. If these terms are in your everyday vocabulary punch yourself in the face, please. This type of racial pandering has for me been a red flag when it comes to dating…
For the rest of the part one of this piece head over to The Asian PlayBoy’s Blog