I gave up three things for lent this year. Usually I do this so I can have one thing that actually went without for 40 days if I fail on the other two. This year I went for a challenge. I gave up chocolate, booze and anal sex. Originally intended as my failsafe Anal has been kinda on my mind lately. Not just because GayTube.com is bookmarked on my phone- I was recommended a pretty awesome book on doing the do up the donk. Dr. Sadie Allison’s Tickle My Tush: Mild to Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty.
This book works not only as a wonderful introduction to anal play but can give the experienced a few good ideas as well. It’s written in an escalating fashion. starting with basic health, hygiene and safety lessons then introduces butt massage then non penetrative anal play and keeps upping the ante all the way to strap on play and pegging.
For the most part Tickle My Tush is a straight forward how to book. My only gripe is its
insistence on using cutesy language in lieu of proper terms. I’m from the school of thought that if you can’t handle the terminology you aren’t mature enough for act. I’m also not sure why the author thought that you need to sex up a sex act. anus or “a-spot” people are still going to play with it. I personally find nothing wrong with the proper name for things. I would feel a lot sillier telling someone to “Fuck my tushy” than saying “Fuck my ass”. Of course some people DO feel less comfy saying or reading rectum. So for those timid few I guess Dr. Allison did them a favor.
The book covers the basics, being clean, how to massage, the erogenous zones, then it breaks down how to play, non-penetrative , how to use toys, how to use strap ons and of a tiny position map. I would recommend this book to anyone curious about having anal sex. The narritive is heteronormal, but it could be applied to many couples. I would have liked a meatier chapter on strap on play that has a frank discussion around the stigma for men and why some men avoid it. It would have been a nice addition but this is not that sort of book. This book gives you the brick and mortar and you can make you own booty lair.
So if you are trying to convince your lover to open up to the idea of anal sex, it may help the transition from the standard two hole hohum sex life to spicey bum fun. Flip through it and maybe you’ll go from timid to BOOTY WARRIOR!