{"id":1891,"date":"2011-05-27T13:48:51","date_gmt":"2011-05-27T17:48:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blasianbytch.com\/?p=1891"},"modified":"2012-07-17T19:37:03","modified_gmt":"2012-07-17T23:37:03","slug":"dear-internet-people-i-am-not-your-fetish-object","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blasianbytch.com\/?p=1891","title":{"rendered":"Dear Internet People- I Am Not Your Fetish Object"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\"\"<\/a>Dear People on the Internet,<\/p>\n

I am on websites like Adultfriendfinder and Fetlife to explore my sexuality and fetishes- not to be your fetish object<\/em><\/strong>. \u00a0I know this might be a confusing concept for some of you out there, but women of color have their kinks and turn-ons as well.\u00a0 While some women might be open to race play many are not.\u00a0 I\u2019m the latter.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I never have to deal with that much yellow fever offline. Most people only\u00a0believe\u00a0I’m mixed in the winter months. \u00a0IRL most people look at me and see a black woman, unless my hair is straightened then they usually think I\u2019m some flavor Mexican or some kind of Arab \u2013 whatever.\u00a0 While there\u2019s a fair amount of creepers pressing the last nerve of Black womanhood ,it wasn\u2019t until I started logging on did I get a glimpse into what goes on for my Asian identified sisters. \u00a0Its not pretty. \u00a0When I changed my screen name from RumPunchPrincess to BlasianBytch my inbox went from 50 emails a week to almost 200. 90% of the messages were creepers looking for me to love them longtime.<\/p>\n

To put it bluntly, some folks don\u2019t know how to act around women of color online or offline.\u00a0 It seems when online some men feel that they are no longer obligated to consider the person on the other side of the screen a sentient being.\u00a0 Corresponding to a woman the way one would blubber to the cover of a porno before you drop in your quarter isn\u2019t going to cause a lady to swoon.<\/p>\n

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Of course this isn\u2019t just for the men, I\u2019ve come across many women that can\u2019t look at a Black man without antebellum Mandingo fantasies dancing like sugar plums behind their eyes.\u00a0 I’ve also witnessed the newer phenom of women obsessed with \u201cAsian culture\u201d to the point where the only penis that will do better make a gong noise when it cums. \u00a0\u00a0I\u2019m sure there are people with all kinds of ethnic and racial sexual fixations. Here\u2019s the thing, if you are one of those people, try to quell your inner creeper.<\/p>\n

The way I see it, if you have a fetish you can look on Fetlife for WILLING participants. If someone comes with ethnic or racial fixation expecting validation from a person or group of their fetish objects they’ve just made everyone a forced participant in their fetish.\u00a0 \u00a0People have no obligation to play up to your fantasies just because they happen to be born the right shade for your flavor of ethnic role-play.<\/p>\n

Its just plain rude and if someone does that I have the right to speak my mind about it. I have the right to ignore or block your emails.\u00a0 I have the right to report you to the site if you can\u2019t take a hint and leave quietly. I have the right to not be harassed. Sadly it seems many of the race fetish trolls can\u2019t seemed to handle those simple truths. I am not latex, I am not a feather tickler, I\u2019m not a ball gag. I\u2019m not a prop. I\u2019m a human being and unless you have been given my explicit consent to treat me any differently – don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Seems like an easy concept, right? You would think so, but every week or so I get a response from someone lamenting my rejection and bringing up the same lame response.\u00a0 \u201cWell, why are you even on (insert website)?\u201d \u00a0\u00a0Do you know what how sounds?\u00a0 \u201c Hey Negro Bed Warmer\/Slant Pussy, you exist solely for the pleasure of others, I\u2019m threatened and angered by your attempts at autonomous sexual identification.\u201d<\/p>\n

Fuck that.\u00a0\u00a0 No one is obligated to fit into anyone else\u2019s fetish. \u00a0It doesn\u2019t matter if the last Asian girl loved it, if the Black guy in college turned you onto it -I have the right to be an individual no matter what website I join,\u00a0 clothes I wear, language I choose to speak,\u00a0 or person I choose to fuck.<\/p>\n

Muaaaah,<\/p>\n

Jaila<\/p>\n

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