{"id":2973,"date":"2012-08-31T15:26:00","date_gmt":"2012-08-31T19:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blasianbytch.com\/?p=2973"},"modified":"2012-08-31T16:41:15","modified_gmt":"2012-08-31T20:41:15","slug":"njailas-mail-box-sex-worker-racism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blasianbytch.com\/?p=2973","title":{"rendered":"N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism"},"content":{"rendered":"
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While I was sick about 2 months ago someone left a pretty interesting comment on one of my toy reviews. It was pretty interesting so I’ll lend my two cents.<\/p>\n

\"\"“Hey N’Jaila, I was wondering what is your take on racism in escort communities. Sorry this isn’t on topic relative to the review, but I’ve been trying to google it since my friend was talking to me about the “no black men” policy some escorts have. I even read a blog post from a white escort, and while I know women are entitled to do what they want with their bodies and to keep themselves safe, especially in that line of work, it just seems all kind of wrong to me. I mean, we don’t even need anti-miscegenation laws or the sometimes seen lynch mobs anymore b\/c people self-select, and in very predictable ways, on and off line. In blatantly racist ways. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about b\/c I’ve considered escort work and it’s difficult to navigate this troubling dynamic. And of course as a black escort I’m worried if I could even make a living. Cause the discrimination goes both ways, I’d imagine white escorts get the most business in spite of age and appearance at time.\u00a0\u00a0Oh and I realize you may not know much about escort side of work, but it’d still like to hear based on your experience, especially as a woman of color.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Thanks for the questions, its a pretty complicated bunch to tackle. \u00a0First, its very hard to say where professional “obligation” starts and\u00a0preferences\u00a0end when it comes to sex work. \u00a0I’m not an escort, but I have been involved in various forms of sex work. \u00a0I have seen many exotic dancers ignore and even rudely rebuff men of certain races for various stupid \u00a0reasons. \u00a0One girl didn’t give dances to Indian men because she didn’t feel they tipped enough. Another dancer I know was afraid to be seen giving dances to Black men on the club floor for fear of losing the tips of White men, she would take them to the VIP portion of the club. \u00a0Neither of these women felt they were racist, or acting unfairly, of course the fact is they made\u00a0judgments\u00a0on clients or customers based their race. If it talks like a racist, and acts like a racist chance are, yep You are a RACIST. Even if you do so not because you actually feel superior to another race , but the supposed fear of losing the money of other racists. In that case not only are you racist but a coward as well. \u00a0 Its even more troubling when workers charge men of color MORE for the same service all the while proclaiming to have policies that\u00a0exclude\u00a0them.<\/p>\n

As I said before I’m not an escort but for a class project<\/a> I did pose as one. \u00a0One of the most depressing things I\u00a0experienced \u00a0during that time was getting calls from Black johns who practically begged and offered more money for me to see them. \u00a0I asked if they did so often and many of them said, “yes”. \u00a0 Personally I would never PAY for the attention of a racist, but there are men that are willing to so the practice of discrimination will continue.<\/p>\n

As for the discrimination that\u00a0happens\u00a0for Sex workers of color, yes its a very real\u00a0thing. \u00a0A lot of ads for dancers, models and even escorts will say they are looking for “classy” or “upscale” which is really just code for “white and thin”. \u00a0Many places will charge you more to work where you will be paid less. \u00a0There is one upside, women of color are\u00a0usually\u00a0billed as far younger than they really are and therefore last longer at some agencies which means a longer career.<\/p>\n

If you are thinking about being an escort please consider the fact that his line of work in the US is illegal. You can lose your vanilla job, even be evicted from your apartment if found out. \u00a0Even more important than that consider that there are man STDs and STI that you can get even with the use of condoms. \u00a0An alternative to escorting might be exotic dancing or web cam modeling, both are legal and reduce the\u00a0amount\u00a0of\u00a0dangerous\u00a0contact\u00a0exponentially. \u00a0Remember for a Black escort , most of your johns will expect to pay you less for more, many agencies won’t hire you and if you are ever arrested you’ll most likely\u00a0receive\u00a0a harsher\u00a0sentence\u00a0than your white\u00a0counterparts.<\/p>\n

I hope I offered some insight into this topic for you, please be safe,<\/p>\n

muaaaaaaah!<\/p>\n

‘Jaila<\/p>\n\n

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