Nothing has surprised me more since starting this blog than the amount of email I get from readers. I never really expected much feedback and I’m always happy when I get it. I have noticed somewhat of a disturbing trend in my emails. Here is a recent one.
While I absolutely love getting feedback from the people who enjoy my work, I’m going to have to ask for comments like these to stop. Poor grammar and spelling aside this email is part of a disturbing trend I see. You see this particular reader is complaining because my stories aren’t stereotypical enough.
Those of you that follow me on twitter will be laughing even harder at the fact that he single Mr.Chien from my A Day at the Office Series as “not asian”, because Mr.Chien is an actual human being and quite Asian. I wonder why is it that this reader felt that Mr.Chien’s persona in the A Day in the Office stories were some how “White” and not “Asian” ? How can these things be defined?
Would Mr.Chien be a more believable Asian if instead of a software engineer and businessman he was a rice farmer? Instead of getting it on with his flexible intern should he be playing the violin? Does he seem less Asian because his village isn’t on fire?When its all boiled down these types of comments are really saying, that the race of the characters in any story should be dictated by how exotic, alien or problematic they are.
Why should “regular” interracial erotica have to be just Black and White? These comments are really more telling of the readers issues with Asian and Asian Americans than my actual writing. All this person is saying is “I’m uncomfortable with a depiction of Asian men as masculine and desirable.”
There is nothing innately White about a sexually desirable man. I also refuse to write the shortsighted racist erotica that compelled me to start writing in the first place. My personal problem with a lot of the interracial erotica being published in print and the web is the instance that a person’s race will dictate the majority of their thoughts and actions. This isn’t Mass Effect and the real world does not work that way. I think its just a lazy bigoted way to write and I refuse.
While I’m talking about mind boggling comments I just wanted to share a very special comment I received on Literotica for “Becoming His”.
That’s right this dude claims a college educated stripper is just too much for him to accept. This is a perfect example of a bullshit comment and the exact opposite of constructive criticism. You see this guy has a preconceived notion that all exotic dancers are uneducated dullards, instead of reading the story and going “oh this character is an individual, and perhaps I’ve had my head up my ass,” he says there’s something wrong with the story.
Kind of in the same vein as the first email, someone complaining that my writing takes them out of their comfort zone of stereotyping people. Please stop doing this people. This is going to be the first and last time I address emails and comments like these on BlasianBytch.com. Those of you that have emailed me know that I respond to every email I receive, but I’m not going to acknowledge or respond to these anymore.
I want to learn and grow as a writer, comments like these are not conducive to that so I feel justified in ignoring them. I encourage anyone esle with questions , or concerns even complaints to email me. Just please before you write that comment or email think if you are complaining about my writing or are you angry your biases aren’t being validated by my posts or stories.
Muaaah,
‘Jaila
Because Asian men can't possibly be 'normal' and 'sexy', and only nursery drop-out hood rats work as strippers, right? I wonder what the latter commenter would say if they knew that you were eloquent AND an exotic dancer?
Thanks for the support guys!
I was a little scared to write a post like this, I didn't want to sound like I was just whining because people don't like my stories.
I just want to speak out against a common annoyance.
I applaud you for calling these guys out on their bullshit. I have had similar problems when writing interracial erotica (mostly white male/black female, as I am a white male with a romantic preference for black women), particularly criticisms like the girls aren't believably “bitchy” enough. Or they don't speak ebonics. The idiocy of such comments riles me up, so imagine my pleasure at reading this. Your story, your rules. Keep it up. ^_^
I say, be puerile and tell them to fuck off. If they are not happy with the standard, go read something else. Its your blog and you write what you want.
Sometimes people are just plugged in too much in the Matrix that they don't want to take the Red Pill.
I'm amazed how much people want to keep people in their little boxes so they can feel comfortable about their own sex lives.
“Regular Interracial” that makes me laugh like “Jumbo Shrimp” and “Military Intelligence”
I know you don't need the encouragement from little old me but I'm giving it anyway (LOL) Do you and F the haters!
Wow, those guys pissed me off. Immediately when the first person said “regular interracial” I got angry. I knew that person meant POCxwhitie, or in this case blackxwhite. I guess some people can't think beyond the binary.There's nothing wrong with that, but please let the people who enjoy all kinds of interracial erotica, such as what you provide here on your blog, keep on reading. I like the erotica that you write because it's hard to find quality writing involving black women and Asian men. And I also wondered why that person read Mr. Chen as white. The complaint probably would have been the same had the male protagonist been anything but white b/c those behaviors are “so not (fill in the blank).” Anyway, this is erotica, so you kind of have to expect people to get into the nasty. So if that person is uncomfortable with sexually appetizing Asian men, don't know what to say.
Second person, I have not read that story just yet. But I wanted to say that college is not the only place of higher learning. I know very enlightened and educated people who never went to college but perhaps picked up a book or found some literature they particularly like. So, she needn't be a college educated stripper. She could have just been a knowledgeable stripper who picked up a book here and there.