Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14

I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work  . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya,  and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :

Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space.  We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter.  
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NSA Whistleblower’s Girlfriend NOT Stripping is News?

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This is a serious article of journalism from Salon.com.  This is the world we live in.

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N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism

 

While I was sick about 2 months ago someone left a pretty interesting comment on one of my toy reviews. It was pretty interesting so I’ll lend my two cents.

“Hey N’Jaila, I was wondering what is your take on racism in escort communities. Sorry this isn’t on topic relative to the review, but I’ve been trying to google it since my friend was talking to me about the “no black men” policy some escorts have. I even read a blog post from a white escort, and while I know women are entitled to do what they want with their bodies and to keep themselves safe, especially in that line of work, it just seems all kind of wrong to me. I mean, we don’t even need anti-miscegenation laws or the sometimes seen lynch mobs anymore b/c people self-select, and in very predictable ways, on and off line. In blatantly racist ways. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about b/c I’ve considered escort work and it’s difficult to navigate this troubling dynamic. And of course as a black escort I’m worried if I could even make a living. Cause the discrimination goes both ways, I’d imagine white escorts get the most business in spite of age and appearance at time.  Oh and I realize you may not know much about escort side of work, but it’d still like to hear based on your experience, especially as a woman of color.” Continue reading “N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism”



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Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day Two!

While I didn’t get to see my name “up in lights” I did get to see my name on the seminar schedule poster. My name was up there along with greats like Brittany Andrews, Sean Micheals, Nyomi Banks and many more. Continue reading “Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day Two!”



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Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day One

Its now a tradition of mine to go to Exxxotica every year, sadly this is the first year I couldn’t convince any of my vanilla friends to come which was a bummer.   My fabulously talented older brother did help me out again with the camera work.  It will take me a few days to put all this new content online so bear with me. In the meantime, I can at least tell you what a blast I had.

I also had the help of a very funny comedian Ryan O’Reagan who I met because I went to the first Exxxotica NJ.  He was such a fun guy and I figured I’d need some help getting used to being on the other side of the camera.  He did an awesome job. Continue reading “Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day One”



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Exxotica NY Getting Down and Dirty Again in Jersey!

The highly successful adult entertainment expo Exxxotica will be making it 3rd stop in Edison, NJ  Nov. 5-7.   J. Handy, Director of Victory Tradeshow Management announced yesterday that for the first time ever all ladies will be admitted free and have access to the VIP room at Exxxotica NY

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Manhatten Madam Kristin Davis Opposes Mosque Near Ground Zero

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Kristin Davis speaking at 49 Grove for her birthday party/ Petition Drive on July 17th.Davis was challenged on her opposition of a mosque being built near Ground Zero.

July 17- Manhattan Madam and New York gubernatorial candidate Kristin Davis celebrated her first birthday since her release from prison at Manhattan lounge 49 Grove.  Davis also used the event as a launch of her petition drive to get on the ballot.Davis needs 15,000 signatures to run.

Partygoers were greeted with semi nude models decorated with Davis’ name as well as marijuana leaves.  Campaign workers made rounds asking everyone registered to vote in New York State to sign a petition.

Davis said in the Daily Caller, “Either way I am confident that I can collect more than enough signatures from cadres of escorts, ex-escorts, strippers, dancers, dommes, gays, lesbians, Libertarians, Ron Paul supporters, U.S. Marines, rappers who revere the pimp or other lovers of freedom …” Continue reading “Manhatten Madam Kristin Davis Opposes Mosque Near Ground Zero”

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My Blogging Story

I was talking to a good friend of mine who complained that I don’t talk about myself enough on my own blog. Honestly I don’t think I’m the world’s most interesting person – but to appease a buddy I wrote and submitted a blogging story to the Black Weblogs Awards and I’d thought I’d share it with all of you.


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I started BlasianBytch.com in my senior year of college. I was a broke overworked fulltime student with 3 jobs one of which was exotic dancing.

It started out as a AdultFriend Finder blog, I was a little shocked that the ramblings of a chubby co-ed stripper would be so popular with so many different types of people.   I expanded to a platform that facilitated better communication and then my own domain.

I had a very interesting time talking about the humorous side of sex and sexuality for an entire year before I moved to my own domain.   Writing was my way of reclaiming myself and giving myself a voice.  As a professional journalist and an exotic dancer you are trained to have a certain level of detachment with your subject matter.  Blogging is completely different and made me feel like I reclaimed that little piece of humanity lost to become a journalist/booty shaker. Continue reading “My Blogging Story”

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Jayla Starr – Exclusive Interview with The Blasian Porn Princess

There are few girls in porn that have a following as loyal as does Jayla Starr and for good reason. Her perfect blend nuaghty and cutie make her a surprisingly  approachable sex pot. With a killer natural body and a warm, fun personality she’s won the admiration of thousands of fans.

Open about her love of video games, macbooks,  Family Guy  and milf pussy she can be found on twitter engaging her 25K + followers everday.  She’s appeared in over 60 scenes since her debut and already produced , directed in starred in two films The Bigger the Better and Vanilla Milf Shakes.

Jayla Starr also has  more perseverance and ambition than the average twenty-something  and her hard work  has earned her two nominations at the 2010 Urban X Awards as well as casted in her first music video.   This rising star will soon be on display with the relaunch of her website Www.JaylaStarr.com on July 9.

She spoke openly about her dream project, being a bisexual bi-racial Black porn actress and making love on film.

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N’jaila’s Mailbag: Strippers, Race and Writing

Nothing has surprised me more since starting this blog than the amount of email I get from readers.  I never really expected much feedback and I’m always happy when I get it.  I have noticed somewhat of a disturbing trend in my emails.  Here is a recent one.

While I absolutely love getting feedback from the people who enjoy my work, I’m going to have to ask for comments like these to stop. Poor grammar and spelling aside this email is part of a disturbing trend I see.  You see this particular reader is complaining because my stories aren’t stereotypical enough.

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Why Valentines Day can fuck right off : The frustration of a postmodern stripper

February 14, Its nestled so innocently in what would otherwise be my favorite month.  Every February of my compulsory education was spent finally learning about Black people.  Growing up this was a once a year event and I was always inspired.  In February I felt I had the potential to do anything,  go to the moon, be president, invent the next big whatever- like all the people before me I could make my mark on the world.

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