Is the Election Impacting Your Sex Life?

I was guest host for Hotline, Fusion’s live sexual health call-in show hosted by Cleo Stiller.  I rarely talk about my personal relationships – even on After Dark, but I thought this was an important topic.  We talk about so many aspects of how elections or politics in general impact our sex lives.

People buy into the idea that love, or at least passion will conquer all, but I think it’s unrealistic to expect to  keep up a healthy sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t share your core values.  Especially when those values include things like equal rights, or not wanting your extrajudicial killing justified by your skin color.  There’s nothing wrong with admitting that certain politics dry your walls or itch your balls.  I feel sick when I think about getting stroked and providing pleasure to a bigot that thinks basic human rights are up for debate.

I’d rather go orgasm free than contribute to the ejaculation of a person with a hateful heart.

Have you ever had to dip out on someone because of conflicting political beliefs? Tell me about it in the comments!



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Sybarite Awards Takes Webster Hall By the Balls, and it likes it!

April 14- New York City- Its time again to recognize the best and most erotic in the fetish and adult swing community and Ms Lola Bastinado of HedoOnline.com and mastermind of the Sybarite Awards did not disappoint.  The show highlighted the alternative side of the alternative lifestyle, and was held at the perfect venue Manhattan’s iconic Webster Hall.

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Get Your Politics off My Tits and Outta My Vag!

Wednesday marked the start of Black History Month. This is the one month that is set aside to uplift Americans who are part of the African Diaspora. Americans that disproportionately lack comprehensive health care and as a result are more likely to die from lack of screening for diseases.  This is why I was more than shocked to find out that Susan G Komen Foundation  picked yesterday to announce they they will cut funds to Planned Parenthood an organization that gave almost 170,000 free breast exams to women in lower income areas of the US, women who would otherwise have never been screened.

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GO TEAM BLASIAN! Meet Kimi Kang

This is big you guys! Earlier this month John and I had a special guest on the podcast, for those of you that missed the live broadcast of The Alter Negro Sho’s interview with the very interesting Kimi Kang of TEAM BLASIAN you can now get a sexy earful now.

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Meet MC Shella, Sexy Blasian Rapper/Singer

I’ve been following her on twitter for a while after I came back from Banana II and got on my #TEAMBLASIAN kick hardcore.  I don’t know why I didn’t write about this Hawaiian beauty earlier but she has been featured on a new song with Akon and Jadakiss.  She’s doing big things!

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Kelly Shibari Talks World Cup Bukkake Event!

I received a few tweets and emails for more updates on Japanese American Plump Porn Princess Kelly Shibari and her blow bang extravaganza. Kelly has just posted this vid (where she looks super cute) telling everyone the details.

If you want to participate all the details are on her site HERE.

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Complex Mag post its 100 Hottest Porn Stars (right now) , Fans Cry Foul.

Complex.com, which prides itself on being “ premier online destination for the most influential 20-something male consumers” posted the list that included 25 LA Direct models and many lesser-known names.  While their way of compiling the list is still very much shrouded in mystery fans and perfromers took to the comment section to voice their concerns about the porn industry, namely racism. Continue reading “Complex Mag post its 100 Hottest Porn Stars (right now) , Fans Cry Foul.”

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Dear Internet People- I Am Not Your Fetish Object

Dear People on the Internet,

I am on websites like Adultfriendfinder and Fetlife to explore my sexuality and fetishes- not to be your fetish object.  I know this might be a confusing concept for some of you out there, but women of color have their kinks and turn-ons as well.  While some women might be open to race play many are not.  I’m the latter.  Continue reading “Dear Internet People- I Am Not Your Fetish Object”

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Let’s Come Together, Team BLASIAN!

Blasians: We come in all shapes , size, colors and creeds

When I spoke at Banana 2 in February, someone asked what do you do when you can’t find  a community of like minded people. I told her that you had to build it because no one will do it for you – and when Hyphen quotes you saying something you bet your ass that you better follow through.

And so I did! CHECK IT OUT

NEW FORUM

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When the Dust Clears

Since coming back from LA my life has been crazy, not as crazy of course as all the people affected by the earthquake and tsunami in Japan.  Admittedly so, I’ve spent the last few days glued to the internet and my cell phone looking for signs of life of my loved ones and friends who were in Japan.    Interestingly enough it was finally getting in contact with a man that the loathed that gave me a little bit of hope.

I had very few boyfriends in college, but the few I had made it a point to show me everything awful that can come from having a penis.   I’ll just call him Y.Y.  Well, Y.Y was the frist Japanese man I ever dated and I think I did so mostly because it cheesed my dad off.  I got my karmic retribution for that in the form of actually having to have a relationship with Y.Y.

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N’jaila Goes Bananas!

Wanna watch me talking about Asian dicks and porn star health insurance? 

I’m finally back from Banana 2 the event I’ve been talking about for months. I actually got back on Tuesday but thanks to some questionable sushi I was out of commission for a bit. Banana 2 took place in Studio City, Los Angeles and it was only my 2nd time in LA. The first time I spent about 3 hours in LA having Pho with Rick Lee.

I can say with no hyperbole that it was one of the proudest and most amazing experiences of my life. Not only did I get to hear men and women who I’ve respected and admired for years but got to meet and speak with them.

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Shelly Lubben: Crouching LIAR, Public RACIST

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelly Lubben’s Anti-Asian Rant

The Rebel Profit has more in common with David Duke than Jesus. Watch around the 11:40 mark to hear her tell the story about “Crazy Chinaman” whose genitals are too small to use condoms.  She even does the mock accent.

The Devil And Shelley Lubben – episode 1 from Michael Whiteacre on Vimeo.

Hey Shelly, THAT’S RACIST!

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PLEASE HELP KIMORA KLEIN

Kimora Klein When I saw on twitter that Kimora was in a car accident and wouldn’t be going to AVN I had no idea how serious her injuries were.  She was tweeting so that means she’s okay. I was tragically mistaken. Continue reading “PLEASE HELP KIMORA KLEIN”

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Banana II Update! The Panel I’m Featured On!

About The Panel I’m featured on:
BANANA 2 Panel:

Fixated: Topic-specific Blogging
Creator: Lac Su
Moderator: Cynthia Brothers
Panelists: N’jaila Rhee (of BlasianBytch), Jot (of Live Laod), Jason Sperber (of Rice Daddies), Marvin (of Burnt Lumpia)

While some bloggers will cover Asian Americana from A to Z, others choose to concentrate on a particular niche, interest, or theme. From food to fatherhood, erotica to adoption, many Asian American bloggers are converging online around targeted topics. How does the blogosphere build community around a distinct yet shared passion or issue? Do bloggers feel compelled to highlight or de-emphasize their an “Asian American experience” How do bloggers stand out when writing about a popular subject, such as food or parenting? This panel will explore these questions, as well as how bloggers ” identities” ethnic and otherwise — may or may not intersect with and influence their perspectives on specific topics.

For more infomation visit:

Banana II

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J.T Tran- Asian Pick Up Artist Explains His Art Part 3

continued from parts one and two .

J.T comes clean about “negging” , White girls and what’s his end game.

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Aaaaand We’re back!

When I said on twitter I was sick, I may have downplayed how sick somewhat. I’ve been pretty ill lately.  Just like any sickness you have good days and you have bad days. Sadly for me I had a lot more of the latter. Continue reading “Aaaaand We’re back!”

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Exxxotica NJ 10 Night of a Thousand STARS!

Okay, that’s kinda over selling it but Exxxotica will be a night of over 100 stars and interesting workshops and panel.  Its going to be the dildo shopping destination of the year.

So you already know I’ll be there tweeting live and doing interviews but I need to know who do my readers want me to interview the most and what do you want me to ask them? Continue reading “Exxxotica NJ 10 Night of a Thousand STARS!”

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J.T Tran- The World Renowned Pick Up Artist pt 2

In the second part of our talk , J.T Tran really broke down and talked about what he teaches at the ABC’s of Attraction.   I was surprised to find out that its not all about tagging the most bitches or collecting the most numbers.

The Asian Playboy is about more than getting the most mileage out of his genitals he’s about so much more…


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J.T Tran- The World Renowned Pick Up Artist pt 1

I got to have a LONG chat with J.T Tran of the ABC’s of Attraction.

While I’ll be the first to admit that as a woman I’m skeptical of the idea of Pick Up Artists.  My only exposure to them being VH1 and one unfortunate incident that ended with me doing very bad things to the bed of a certain NYU student (I will totally buy you new bed sheets if we ever meet again) , it was interesting to hear everything he had to say about race, prejudice and the art of attracting women.

So , first and foremost what the hell is Pick Up Artistry and why is it an art?

Well the pick up arts is that art, if you will, of going out and meeting beautiful women. There are different ways to go about it, different styles. Some are more indirect; some more direct but its basically teaching men how to talk to women. How to be more successful.

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Going Home for the holidays!

So as I write this I’m packing a bag and getting ready to visit my mom for 추석 or Chuseok.  Its kinda like a Korean Thanksgiving sort of thing.

Seeing as my father is in France on business my mom is just using this as an excuse to get me to fly out, but I miss my Mom madly so I’ll play along.  I’ll be gone from today to the 28th. Don’t worry postings will still go up!

Now I must go find some songpyeon to bring to my mom.

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