I was a guest host for Hotline, Fusion’s live sexual health call-in show hosted by Cleo Stiller. I rarely talk about my personal relationships – even on After Dark, but I thought this was an important topic. We talk about how many aspects of this election or politics, in general, impact our sex lives.
People buy into the idea that love or at least passion will conquer all, but I think it’s unrealistic to expect to keep up a healthy sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t share your core values. Especially when those values include things like equal rights, or not wanting your extrajudicial killing justified by your skin color. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that certain politics dry your walls or itch your balls. I feel sick when I think about getting stroked and providing pleasure to a bigot that thinks basic human rights are up for debate.
Personally, I’d rather go orgasm free than contribute to the ejaculation of a person with a hateful heart.
Have you ever had to dip out on someone because of conflicting political beliefs? Tell me about it in the comments!
Daniel Holtzclaw is hopefully going to spend the rest of his natural life in jail after targeting low-income black women. If you listen to my podcast After Dark or follow me on twitter, you’ve heard about the case of serial rapist former police Oklahoma City officer Daniel Holtzclaw. I had the honor of expressing some of the many complicated feelings stirred up by this trial, its coverage and what it means for Black sex workers. Please head over to TitsandSass to read it :
April 14- New York City- Its time again to recognize the best and most erotic in the fetish and adult swing community and Ms Lola Bastinado of HedoOnline.com and mastermind of the Sybarite Awards did not disappoint. The show highlighted the alternative side of the alternative lifestyle, and was held at the perfect venue Manhattan’s iconic Webster Hall.
Wednesday marked the start of Black History Month. This is the one month that is set aside to uplift Americans who are part of the African Diaspora. Americans that disproportionately lack comprehensive health care and as a result are more likely to die from lack of screening for diseases. This is why I was more than shocked to find out that Susan G Komen Foundation picked yesterday to announce they they will cut funds to Planned Parenthood an organization that gave almost 170,000 free breast exams to women in lower income areas of the US, women who would otherwise have never been screened.
A close friend of mine linked me to a character study that appeared on the NYTimes.com , profiling a 52 year old sex worker in Hunts Point New York. The short profile story and video (after the jump) ,in my opinion, was a rare change of narrative that most are used to when it comes to sex work in America.
Porn legend Sinnamon Love celebrated her 38th birthday – yes you read that correctly 38th birthday – on Dec 30th. I was delighted to be invited to cover the event and Sinnamon Love showed up more bubbly and adorable than most girls at wish they did on their Sweet 16. The pint sized domme and adult movie legend was joined not only by porn starlets but also poets , authors and a iconic DJ.
This is big you guys! Earlier this month John and I had a special guest on the podcast, for those of you that missed the live broadcast of The Alter Negro Sho’s interview with the very interesting Kimi Kang of TEAM BLASIAN you can now get a sexy earful now.
Today I have something very special! A guest post from one of my biggest supporters and virtual Oppas! Paul Oppa was lucky enough to attend Erotica 2011 in London, England and sent in this lovely report with the help of BBW starlet Busty Cookie , who won the UKAP Award for 2011 best series The G Team Tvx/Freddiesworld.
The US may have Exxxotica, but earlier this month Erotica 2011 took place at Olympia, London. It billed itself as the biggest adult lifestyle event in Europe, with a particular focus on dance this year. Taking place over 3 days from Friday 18th to Sunday 20th November, there were more than 300 exhibitors in addition to the dance stages.
I’ve been following her on twitter for a while after I came back from Banana II and got on my #TEAMBLASIAN kick hardcore. I don’t know why I didn’t write about this Hawaiian beauty earlier but she has been featured on a new song with Akon and Jadakiss. She’s doing big things!
When I spoke at Banana 2 in February, someone asked what do you do when you can’t find a community of like minded people. I told her that you had to build it because no one will do it for you – and when Hyphen quotes you saying something you bet your ass that you better follow through.
For the last ten or so years every form of mass media has told me that this is not only the best way of measuring my worth as a Black woman, its also innately low class while being the only reason any man would put up with me.
Its now a tradition of mine to go to Exxxotica every year, sadly this is the first year I couldn’t convince any of my vanilla friends to come which was a bummer. My fabulously talented older brother did help me out again with the camera work. It will take me a few days to put all this new content online so bear with me. In the meantime, I can at least tell you what a blast I had.
I’ve been asked to write a opinion or advice piece for Asian men on many occasions this is the first time I’ve taken a serious approach to the subject.
I know for many I might be a strange woman, I’m a Black identified woman who through fate and circumstance found myself involved with almost exclusively Asian men. I don’t think this makes me any kind of expert on Asian Male Black Women relations but J.T the Asian Playboy asked me to write and so I shall.
LOS ANGELES – Montana Fishburne, 19-year-old daughter of award winning actor Laurence Fishburne has made “Montana Fishburne,” her first-ever adult movie with Vivid Entertainment.
The DVD of the movie will be released nationwide and available online at Vivid on August 18.
Vivid said the movie is more than an hour long and follows the lesser Fishburne as she engages in a desperate cry for attention and help.
“I view making this movie as an important first step in ending my father’s career,” Fishburne said. “I’ve watched how successful he has become growing up and I was thinking…how can I somehow tarnish that, while failing to make myself a celebutuant. I’m impatient about getting well-known and having more opportunities but, more importantly this seemed like the best way for me to back at my dad for naming me fucking ‘Montana’.” Continue reading “Parody: Vivid To Reluctantly Include One More Black Woman On Site”
I was talking to a good friend of mine who complained that I don’t talk about myself enough on my own blog. Honestly I don’t think I’m the world’s most interesting person – but to appease a buddy I wrote and submitted a blogging story to the Black Weblogs Awards and I’d thought I’d share it with all of you.
I started BlasianBytch.com in my senior year of college. I was a broke overworked fulltime student with 3 jobs one of which was exotic dancing.
It started out as a AdultFriend Finder blog, I was a little shocked that the ramblings of a chubby co-ed stripper would be so popular with so many different types of people. I expanded to a platform that facilitated better communication and then my own domain.
I had a very interesting time talking about the humorous side of sex and sexuality for an entire year before I moved to my own domain. Writing was my way of reclaiming myself and giving myself a voice. As a professional journalist and an exotic dancer you are trained to have a certain level of detachment with your subject matter. Blogging is completely different and made me feel like I reclaimed that little piece of humanity lost to become a journalist/booty shaker. Continue reading “My Blogging Story”
There are few girls in porn that have a following as loyal as does Jayla Starr and for good reason. Her perfect blend nuaghty and cutie make her a surprisingly approachable sex pot. With a killer natural body and a warm, fun personality she’s won the admiration of thousands of fans.
Open about her love of video games, macbooks, Family Guy and milf pussy she can be found on twitter engaging her 25K + followers everday. She’s appeared in over 60 scenes since her debut and already produced , directed in starred in two films The Bigger the Better and Vanilla Milf Shakes.
Jayla Starr also has more perseverance and ambition than the average twenty-something and her hard work has earned her two nominations at the 2010 Urban X Awards as well as casted in her first music video. This rising star will soon be on display with the relaunch of her website Www.JaylaStarr.com on July 9.
She spoke openly about her dream project, being a bisexual bi-racial Black porn actress and making love on film.