Come see me at Exxxotica NJ!

Exxxotica Expo returns for its 12th year and the New Jersey Expo center will be filled with glitter and the newest self-fuck devices. It’s a magical weekend when the least sexy state turns up the heat and airs out its junk – like sexily, not like in a yeasty way. I would like to say it feels like I was covering the first show for my college paper yesterday, but I can’t fathom that it’s been over a decade. Youth sure did prove more fleeting than I anticipated. You know what else is fleeting? TICKETS! Get yours before they sell out!

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Off Market Zombie Pussy and Other Updates

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I had the pleasure of being interviewed on The Inner Hoe Uprising Podcast as a part of their series on sex workers. If you ever wanted a comprehensive rundown of my hoe-story this is the podcast for you! We talk about a lot of the realities of being big, Blasian and surviving thanks to erotic labor. I also fact check the Jennifer Lopez/ Constance Wu ripped from the headlines crime dramedy HUSTLERS. The episode is available on all the platforms, give it a listen and support my fellow black femme content creators.

Listen and Rate:
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iHeart: https://ihr.fm/2nb1YTF
Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2mb1flg
Stitcher: https://bit.ly/2nQNgl0

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Decriminalizing Sex Work Webinar – GET INVOLVED

Tuesday, June 25 – 3 PM (ET) / Noon (PT)

REGISTER HERE bit.ly/DecrimSexWorkWebinar

Speakers:

Presented by the Sex Worker Rights Working Group of the National Lawyers Guild (NLG) Queer Caucus, this webinar will include a primer on the sex work, an explanation of the current and proposed policies that impact them, and the NLG’s current and potential positions on these policies. While it’s targeted towards NLG members, this webinar is appropriate for anyone who wants to learn more about sex worker rights!

At last year’s #Law4thePeople Convention, NLG members voted to pass a resolution condemning the anti-sex worker legislation SESTA/FOSTA. During the process, we learned that many NLG members had questions about sex worker rights and impending legislation. Now that New York and Washington, DC have introduced legislation to decriminalize sex work, it’s crucial that NLG members across the country have a basic understanding of the issue and learn how to get involved.

SHARE:www.nlg.org/webinar-decriminalizing-sex-work-what-why-and-how-to-get-involved

Panel – Patriarchy in the Algorithms – Sexuality and Censorship Online

I have the honor of being a part of panel discussion on a topic very important to me and many other sex workers – Sexuality and Censorship Online.  The title of the panel discussion is:

Patriarchy in the Algorithms – Sexuality and Censorship Online
We’ll be discussing how sexism, misogyny, and racism are built into the biases of our digital world, and how they affect our conversations around sexuality.  
WHERE:
WHEN: Thursday August 16th
TIME: Arrive at 6.30pm for 7.00pm start
Tickets can be purchased HERE

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Housing Emergency Fundraiser for a Disabled Trans Woman of Color

The New Jersey Red Umbrella Alliance (NJRUA) is raising funds for a trans worker of color in New Jersey who has recently lost her leg from infection and is facing economic hardship. We are trying to raise funds to save her home and provide a secure place for her to continue to recover. NJRUA has raised 25% of their goal and while we have saved her from eviction she still need assistance with a large debt.  I hope that everyone can donate or share the fundraiser.

 

 

N’jaila Joins The Unapologet!cs Podcast for Kinky Fun

What’s good? Miss me? I missed me, too!

I’ve got back to my content producing sexual self and dropped by the Unapologet!cs for their Kink Positive series.  I joined hosts Dani and Animaine and talked about my favorite kinks and gave advice to those starting to explore BDSM and other fetishes. I also shared my complete aversion to the most common fetish, feet.

Twitter Has Made It Impossible to Ignore the Reality of Sex Work

ea8843aa135b22194ec27410e02f565bLux Alptraum wrote this great piece on how Twitter has impacted the visibility of Sex Workers and how that affects us.  The article also Charlotte Shane and Anlina Sheng of the Winnipeg Working Group for Sex Workers’ Rights .   You can read the article

HERE

 

BLACK TRANS SEX WORKER LIVES MATTER

black-trans-SW-lives-matterWhen I wrote about the Daniel Holtzclaw case for TitsandSass  I was happy the piece was generally well received, but sadly there have been ignorant people who felt that including instances where Black trans women were violated somehow detracted from the article. Those people are assholes.

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Daniel Holtzclaw, Black Women and the Myth of Police Protection

Daniel Holtzclaw is hopefully going to spend the rest of his natural life in jail after targeting low-income black women. happybirthdayrapistpieceofshitIf you listen to my podcast After Dark or follow me on twitter, you’ve heard about the case of serial rapist former police Oklahoma City officer Daniel Holtzclaw.  I had the honor of expressing some of the many complicated feelings stirred up by this trial, its coverage and what it means for Black sex workers. Please head over to TitsandSass to read it :

http://titsandsass.com/daniel-holtzclaw-black-women-and-the-myth-of-police-protection/

 

New (ish) Interviews with ME!

11076236_10202626860872659_7303463830415808914_nSo its been awhile. I’ve come down with a very bad case of “Everything I Write is Poops” but working on that to bring you guy more delicious content.  If you have missed me I wanted to give you a chance to listen or read to some of my latest interviews.

I had the honor of being interviewed by the Asian American Writers Workshop’s  Ester Wang, talking about everything from race to sex work and my love of New York City.

If you missed my February appearance on the awesome Sex Love Joy podcast hosted by Anaín Bjorkquist  now is the time to get some more N’jaila in your ear.
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TWIB AFTER DARK GIVEAWAY – Flash Brown Cock!

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I’ll be welcoming Flash Brown (@flashbrownxxx) as a guest on Twib After Dark on Feb. 25th and to celebrate one of my favorite performers we are giving away one of his toys! Flash Brown4

Molded from his impressive 11.5 inch penis, these toys come in several varieties, squirting vibrating and always filling.Flash Brown Vibrator

 

Flash Brown hails from Memphis, and played professional basketball overseas and semi-pro basketball in the United States before entering the world of adult entertainment. His impressive 11.5” cock has made him a hit with fans around the globe, earning him an XBIZ Best Male Newcomer Award and several Urban X Awards. Nominations from AVN Awards, The Sex Awards, and XRCO prove his on-screen prowess.

If you have any questions for Flash please leave them in the comments below if you wish to enter the give away you can do it right here:

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A Special TWIB After Dark

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This week I had the pleaser of co-hosting TWiB After Dark with the actress and TWIB contributor Pia Glenn!  Let me tell ya’ll about Pia, she’s awesome she is proof that we are all made of stars. ( Of course me and you are made of that trash planet from Transformers the Movie, she is made from a planet that’s all diamonds like that episode of Dr. Who)  She is genetically superior being who is gracing us with the chance to be in her presence.

Not only can you be aurally pleasured by Pia’s voice on this week’s After Dark we got to speak to some of the ladies of Everyday Whorephobia @_peech and @MeliMachiavelli.  I’m so happy I was able to talk with them about the murders of  and spread the word about their memorial fund.

Listen to After Dark #41: The Red Wedding

Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia

When I was interviewed for an article about Black sex workers last week,  it wasn’t the story of an actress and her white boyfriend that was on my mind. It was the murders of  and .

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“the bodies of Angelia Mangum, 19, and Tjhisha Ball, 18 were spotted on the side of a road around 1 a.m. yesterday. The bodies were reportedly bound with zip ties, naked and on top of one another. Read more at EBONY

[pullquote] Donate to the families of#TjhishaAndAngelia HERE [/pullquote]It wasn’t just the ghastly way they were discovered or the brutal way they were murdered it the reaction of civvies and the news media at large. Several news sources published their mug shots, identified them only as strippers in that demeaning tone that stopped just short of ‘they asked for it’. Continue reading “Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia”

Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14

I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work  . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya,  and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here :

Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by moving into a digital space.  We took questions both from the live audience and from twitter.  
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N’jaila’s Mailbag: Is Porn Sexist?

Many moons ago I got an interesting Ask in my tumblr. While this submission wasn’t actually a question so much as a person trying to BLOW MY MIND with their amazing logic. I thought I should share it.

romantic-love-letter-ideas“The porn industry is male dominated (made up primarily of male pornographers/film directors/producers/editors/casting directors) and is geared towards a straight male audience. Just because some women and some queer individuals consume pornographic content (much of which is becoming increasingly violent and aggressive, especially towards women) does not make it ‘feminist,’ or ‘ethical.'”

 

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N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism

 

While I was sick about 2 months ago someone left a pretty interesting comment on one of my toy reviews. It was pretty interesting so I’ll lend my two cents.

“Hey N’Jaila, I was wondering what is your take on racism in escort communities. Sorry this isn’t on topic relative to the review, but I’ve been trying to google it since my friend was talking to me about the “no black men” policy some escorts have. I even read a blog post from a white escort, and while I know women are entitled to do what they want with their bodies and to keep themselves safe, especially in that line of work, it just seems all kind of wrong to me. I mean, we don’t even need anti-miscegenation laws or the sometimes seen lynch mobs anymore b/c people self-select, and in very predictable ways, on and off line. In blatantly racist ways. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about b/c I’ve considered escort work and it’s difficult to navigate this troubling dynamic. And of course as a black escort I’m worried if I could even make a living. Cause the discrimination goes both ways, I’d imagine white escorts get the most business in spite of age and appearance at time.  Oh and I realize you may not know much about escort side of work, but it’d still like to hear based on your experience, especially as a woman of color.” Continue reading “N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism”

Letting a Whore Have Her Say

A close friend of mine  linked me to a character study that appeared on the NYTimes.com ,  profiling a 52 year old sex worker in Hunts Point New York.   The  short profile story and video (after the jump)  ,in my opinion, was a rare change of narrative that most are used to when it comes to sex work in America.

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Shelly Lubben: Crouching LIAR, Public RACIST

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelly Lubben’s Anti-Asian Rant

The Rebel Profit has more in common with David Duke than Jesus. Watch around the 11:40 mark to hear her tell the story about “Crazy Chinaman” whose genitals are too small to use condoms.  She even does the mock accent.

The Devil And Shelley Lubben – episode 1 from Michael Whiteacre on Vimeo.

Hey Shelly, THAT’S RACIST!

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