Is the Election Impacting Your Sex Life?

I was guest host for Hotline, Fusion’s live sexual health call-in show hosted by Cleo Stiller.  I rarely talk about my personal relationships – even on After Dark, but I thought this was an important topic.  We talk about so many aspects of how elections or politics in general impact our sex lives.

People buy into the idea that love, or at least passion will conquer all, but I think it’s unrealistic to expect to  keep up a healthy sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t share your core values.  Especially when those values include things like equal rights, or not wanting your extrajudicial killing justified by your skin color.  There’s nothing wrong with admitting that certain politics dry your walls or itch your balls.  I feel sick when I think about getting stroked and providing pleasure to a bigot that thinks basic human rights are up for debate.

I’d rather go orgasm free than contribute to the ejaculation of a person with a hateful heart.

Have you ever had to dip out on someone because of conflicting political beliefs? Tell me about it in the comments!



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N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism

 

While I was sick about 2 months ago someone left a pretty interesting comment on one of my toy reviews. It was pretty interesting so I’ll lend my two cents.

“Hey N’Jaila, I was wondering what is your take on racism in escort communities. Sorry this isn’t on topic relative to the review, but I’ve been trying to google it since my friend was talking to me about the “no black men” policy some escorts have. I even read a blog post from a white escort, and while I know women are entitled to do what they want with their bodies and to keep themselves safe, especially in that line of work, it just seems all kind of wrong to me. I mean, we don’t even need anti-miscegenation laws or the sometimes seen lynch mobs anymore b/c people self-select, and in very predictable ways, on and off line. In blatantly racist ways. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about b/c I’ve considered escort work and it’s difficult to navigate this troubling dynamic. And of course as a black escort I’m worried if I could even make a living. Cause the discrimination goes both ways, I’d imagine white escorts get the most business in spite of age and appearance at time.  Oh and I realize you may not know much about escort side of work, but it’d still like to hear based on your experience, especially as a woman of color.” Continue reading “N’jaila’s Mail Box : Sex Worker Racism”



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Get Your Politics off My Tits and Outta My Vag!

Wednesday marked the start of Black History Month. This is the one month that is set aside to uplift Americans who are part of the African Diaspora. Americans that disproportionately lack comprehensive health care and as a result are more likely to die from lack of screening for diseases.  This is why I was more than shocked to find out that Susan G Komen Foundation  picked yesterday to announce they they will cut funds to Planned Parenthood an organization that gave almost 170,000 free breast exams to women in lower income areas of the US, women who would otherwise have never been screened.

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GO TEAM BLASIAN! Meet Kimi Kang

This is big you guys! Earlier this month John and I had a special guest on the podcast, for those of you that missed the live broadcast of The Alter Negro Sho’s interview with the very interesting Kimi Kang of TEAM BLASIAN you can now get a sexy earful now.

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Anal Sex 101 with TS Star Wendy Williams

So I talked about really terrible anal sex in part one ,  now I want to talk about how to have amazing mutually pleasurable anal sex in a way that is fun, clean and of course SAFE. 

When I frist started talking about writing a how to on Anal I knew I should ask someone that is more of an authority and who is more of an authority on Anal that a TS performer?  An if I was going to go with a TS performer I had to go with a AVN and XBIZ TS performer of the year Wendy Williams, who actually worked with Doc Johnson to create an anal sex training kit. So if there was ever a person who knew how to take it in the pooper Wendy was my girl.  Continue reading “Anal Sex 101 with TS Star Wendy Williams”



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Do you think I’m the ULTIMATE BLOGGER?

Unfortunately this involves no cage match BUT a vote for me can see this blog’s resources expanded and that means more delicious content for you my beautiful readers.
Ultimate Blogger Search

If I win I’ll also get a weekly column on VibeVixen.com , which would give me the opportunity to talk about sex positive issues in a main stream publication.  So if you can please vote, tweet and share this on FaceBook.

Muaaah!
Jaila

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Breaking Up with Mr. Mid-Life Crisis

My pussy is going on strike. I’ve decided for the remainder of the year to be celibate and continue to be celibate for as long as I can until I find a worthy partner.  The first step for me was trying to tie up all the loose ends of booty calls and sorta boyfriends of the past that kept popping up trying to get some poon.  It was taking too long to individually address them all so I wrote this so I could just send them the link when they come calling.

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Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day Two!

While I didn’t get to see my name “up in lights” I did get to see my name on the seminar schedule poster. My name was up there along with greats like Brittany Andrews, Sean Micheals, Nyomi Banks and many more. Continue reading “Exxxotica NJ Re-cap: The Girls , Cars and Stars! Day Two!”

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N’jaila on the G Spot pt 2

Here is part two of my interview  where I  get to talk about what I know the best, orgasms, vibrators and how to have the best sex of your life!


I hope you join Gspotclique.com, they are actually doing a promotion in honor of moi if you buy a Lelo Liv from them not only will you get free shipping, but you’ll get 20% off! use the coupon code “blasianbytch” from now until  Nov 1

Muaaaah,

Jaila

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N’jaila on the G Spot

I got to do a wonderful interview with the ladies of the G Spot, they really got me to open up about growing up different, Asian Cocks and being a coed at Rutgers.


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Lainie Speiser Wrote the Book On Blow Jobs, Buy It!

Lainie Speiser has written frankly and openly about sex and the adult industry for quite some time. From Threesomes to sex games Speiser takes a direct and funny approach to finding pleasure. Her new offering explores a bedroom staple, the Blow Job.  If you’re not so adventurous in the bed room this book is a push in the right direction.

I attended the launch party and got to have a little talk about sucking dick with the master.

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Boys before Breakfast

“That was like fucking a ghost”

He was laying on his back and staring at the ceiling.  He had finally caught his breath after a bought of arrhythmic and sadly unsatisfying lovemaking.   His hand crept over the roundness of my hip I think he was looking for my hand.  My back was to his; it was customary for me to turn away from a man after we’d fucked.  It was my subtle way of saying ‘don’t worry, I don’t expect to cuddle.”It was a not so subtle hint that I hate each one for not volunteering his affection.  I lay there looking at the folksy decorations of his dorm room.

He nudged me, “ Did you hear me, are you awake?”

“Yeah,” pillow talk, awkward.

The vast majority of men that fucked me much like one might play a sport. Can you imagine a basketball player playing a scrimmage and asking the court ‘how was it for you?’.  They mostly did their business and moved on. I never asked them to stay because it seemed more and more I didn’t want them to.

“You fuck like a ghost,” he said. Continue reading “Boys before Breakfast”

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I Was On The Radio Ya’ll!

About a month or so ago I was a guest on the “All Night Long” Show.  They were nice enough to put the raw audio of the interview up on youtube so I can share with all of you.

ENJOY!

Videos after the jump

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Blasian Bytch on Dating Blasian

I’ve been asked to write a opinion or advice piece for Asian men on many occasions this is the first time I’ve taken a serious approach to the subject.

I know for many I might be a strange woman, I’m a Black identified woman who through fate and circumstance found myself involved with almost exclusively Asian men.   I don’t think this makes me any kind of expert on Asian Male Black Women relations but J.T the Asian Playboy asked me to write and so I shall.

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Women Don’t Need Sex

“Women don’t need sex”

This is a sentence that someone has actually uttered to me in the last 24 hours.  When I questioned this man, who is 32 years old and married, about if he really believed what he said he defensively amended his statement to – “women don’t need sex as much as men.”

My response- “ Tell that to my throbbing pussy because she’s telling me that not only do I need some sex I should be getting it rather soon.” Continue reading “Women Don’t Need Sex”

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My Blogging Story

I was talking to a good friend of mine who complained that I don’t talk about myself enough on my own blog. Honestly I don’t think I’m the world’s most interesting person – but to appease a buddy I wrote and submitted a blogging story to the Black Weblogs Awards and I’d thought I’d share it with all of you.


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I started BlasianBytch.com in my senior year of college. I was a broke overworked fulltime student with 3 jobs one of which was exotic dancing.

It started out as a AdultFriend Finder blog, I was a little shocked that the ramblings of a chubby co-ed stripper would be so popular with so many different types of people.   I expanded to a platform that facilitated better communication and then my own domain.

I had a very interesting time talking about the humorous side of sex and sexuality for an entire year before I moved to my own domain.   Writing was my way of reclaiming myself and giving myself a voice.  As a professional journalist and an exotic dancer you are trained to have a certain level of detachment with your subject matter.  Blogging is completely different and made me feel like I reclaimed that little piece of humanity lost to become a journalist/booty shaker. Continue reading “My Blogging Story”

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Do You Know What May is?

National Masturbation Month!!!

It is actually stroke awareness month

Yes,  May is known for many things ,  including  National Stroke Month it is also :

  • Asian American History Month
  • South Asian/ Indian Month
  • Military Forces Appreciation Month

For me May is one of my favorite months because it is set aside to help people get in touch with themselves.  As someone that used to be very against masturbation , I know how hard it is especially for women to start to appreciate their bodies. Continue reading “Do You Know What May is?”

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Why Valentines Day can fuck right off : The frustration of a postmodern stripper

February 14, Its nestled so innocently in what would otherwise be my favorite month.  Every February of my compulsory education was spent finally learning about Black people.  Growing up this was a once a year event and I was always inspired.  In February I felt I had the potential to do anything,  go to the moon, be president, invent the next big whatever- like all the people before me I could make my mark on the world.

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10 Things You Need to Pack a “Ho”Bag.

This week my younger cousin moved into her first dorm.  As I sat in the car with her, she asked me to share with her the most important thing I learned in college.  A few things were running in my mind as a took a pause to think.  She then amended her question to “what’s the most useful thing you learned in college?”

Without hesitation I answered.  “What to put in your ho bag.”

What is a ho bag , you ask?   Ever gone to a club and seen chicks with those big ass purses and you can’t for the life of you think as to why they would bother with such cumbersome loads in a crowed ass club.  Those women are planing on being ho’s for the night. Those  satchels will see them through to the next morning.   It not just for clubs, or the random hook up its a college essential!

If there is one time in one’s life when they can act bat-shit stupid and get away with it, its college.  Let’s face it the only difference between college and Vegas is that in college the  sex is free. Continue reading “10 Things You Need to Pack a “Ho”Bag.”

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