My first Fetish Party: The Sybarite Awards

Fun for the Entire Leather Family!


Sexy Dancers
It was that kinda party.

During a torrential downpour in New York City a who’s who of the Adult and Fetish community gathered in an exclusive private penthouse. Hosted by Playboy TV and Spice Radio personality, Head Mistress of Hedoonline , Lola Bastinado .  International porn superstars, pent house pets and other celebrities attended the event.  This event was also my first fetish party.

Guests were treated to live music and fetish/ bondage demonstrations before the award ceremony.   Sexy male and female go-go dancers performed for and with delighted onlookers.  There was an array of different S&M activities for the pleasures of the attendees, including static electric wands, love swings and plethora of leather restraints.

I have to say I felt more than intimidated walking into the venue. I’ve covered lifestyle events before, but none were like this. I also attended those as N’jaila, the completely detached journalist, not N’jaila BBW Adult entertainer.  It was second nature for me, only a few years ago.   I would be lying if I didn’t admit that it didn’t feel damn good.

Britney Andrews making's acceptance speech very eventful. It was great chill with my awesome publicist and shake my tail feather with the always fun Brittney Andrews.   What I found very odd was that most of the civilians in attendance were looking at me like some weird flower.  I even had one fellow with a very sexy body – but deal breaking Ed hardy Tee- tell me that I was the only “big girl” to get him so excited. Seriously?  Is that how men are trying to get their dick wet these days?

Because I was there as a journalist I wasn’t trying to actually “play” on premises with any couples.  I did hand my card out to some very handsome couples after chatting them up a bit.  I’ll have to admit I don’t quite know the etiquette in these situations yet.  I assumed it would be more respectful to approach the female before eye fucking her man right in front of her.  I might as well be polite and pretend like I have any intention of touching her vagina.

Approaching someone in this kind of situation is always a little awkward, but when your fat black and usually 2 or 3 inches taller than other people you have to have a little extra fortitude to your balls.  There were few Black or Asian couples meaning the majority of men dancing with and interacting with me were White. While I have no issues with that, one always has to consider if his partner does.   It always feels like doing the tarantella on a carton of eggs.


My boobs ladies and gentleman.

Of course when I’m out on the dance floor I know I’m bound to make some new friends -especially with the 40HHs in full view and decoratively painted.  But there just something special about having friends dancing with you.  I  know I would have held up solo, but would it have been as fun most likely not.

I’m glad that was able to keep my inner hueax in check and out of trouble.  No matter how tempting the camera man or middle aged Asian guy, my clit was on her best behavior.  I had a lot of fun and met some great people; I would love to attend a party like this as a guest so I don’t have to be such a good girl.

The main even were the Sybarite Awards. The show was short and festive, with celebrity presenters Brittany Andrews, Moe The Monster, former New York gubernatorial candidate and Manhattan Madam Kristen Davis among others.

All the categories were vote on by the community with winners from all over the country.  The winners were:

Favorite Website: (Las Vegas)

Favorite New Website: (San Francisco)

Favorite Product: 

WET Snergy

Favorite LifeStyle Club: 

TABU (Maryland)

Favorite On Premise Party: 


Favorite Off Premise Party: 

Heaven (Las Vegas)

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Author: N'jaila

N'jaila Rhee grew up in north New Jersey and graduated with a degree in Journalism and Communication media from Rutgers University in 2009. Rhee began exotic dancing while attended classes at Rutgers, and still dances at special events. Currently working professionally in media in the NYC metro area, she enjoys writing erotica, eating Nilla wafers and giggling at the word "balls".

  • joffy

    Love your big HH’s.

  • Paul_A54

    Looks and sounds like it was a great party! Thank you for all the photos, especially for the one of your decorated cleavage (*swoons* lol). Lol at the guy in the Ed Hardy T-shirt – doomed to failure. Wish I’d been there to see you dance. ^_^

    • hehe, I try to stay away from any man over 40 who wants to dress in the recognized d-bag uniform.  Aww I’ll dance for you soon.