Exxxotica NJ Day 3 and What I learned

Day three of Exxxotica had me completely exhausted and I was so lucky to have funny man Ryan O’Regan on hand to help me with interviews. This was really his day to shine he interviewed Lisa Ann, Sunny Lane, Lupe Fuentes and so many more people. It was like he was born to interview porn stars!

Well, mere words won’t do his charisma justice here’s his interview with Lisa Ann!

Another great thing about the last day at Exxxotica NJ was that DJ K Slay and Killa Cam where there with Dipsexxx to promote the upcoming Rhymesndimes.com.  This was not related to Phatties Rymes and Dimes which popularized the knee-slappingly hilarious “Oh and its Shaved“. There was fun music, booty shaking, sexy girls and free t-shirts.

I was unfortunately sick as a dog, I’m still sick as I type this two bottles of Dayquil later.

Looking back at this year’s event it was clear that there was a lot of growth and better organization of activities. There was also a lot of diversity among the performers present, but there was one group that was absurdly under represented- GAYS.

What little presence there was for gay friendly content from last year was gone from this year’s show.  Last year the unveiling of the RealTouch and a few other booths that featured gay content were extremely popular.  I was a little saddening to see a drop in representation. I for one looked forward to finding new content and new ways to consume the sort of content I enjoy.

I hope more gay and Alt porn stars will make appearances, I would love to interview Jizz Lee  or Buck Angel at Exxxotica in the future.

This Exxxotica was a learning experience for me. Working with a team, setting budgets and producing content is not as easy as I thought it would be.  Doing interviews in front of a camera is terrifying!  In all my years of journalism I never once had to be in front of the camera.  I learned I sort of suck at it…BUT I’m looking at all my many mistakes and learning from them.

Another thing I should address is what I learned about me. I haven’t danced steadily in two years. I used to look like the damn cartoon of me.  Looking at the video interviews I shot… I look like me in a fat suit.  Hell, I looked like a dead bloated beached whale , right at the moment before all the decomposition gasses coat Taiwanese citizens with its guts.

I was trying to have a good attitude about the whole thing, wearing clothes I would have worn even if I was feeling confident about my body and all.  Boy did that plan backfire.  I just look at my arms and recoil in terror.

You must be thinking Jaila, you’re a BBW performer the fatter you get the more money you make. Yeah Okay… but not everything is about money. I want to feel healthy. I don’t.  Do I want to be thin, not really. I was comfortable being a bigger woman…but not this fucking big.

I’m happy that my same super supportive virtual boyfriend that had my back for Exxxotica is behind me on this as well.  I hope all the guy that like to see me dance (and I met some of you at Exxxotica and it was AWESOME) support me too.  I’m going to be getting my body right to feel healthy and happy.  You want a happy, healthy, flexible N’jaila to dance for you right?  Good then 😀




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Author: N'jaila

N'jaila Rhee grew up in north New Jersey and graduated with a degree in Journalism and Communication media from Rutgers University in 2009. Rhee began exotic dancing while attended classes at Rutgers, and still dances at special events. Currently working professionally in media in the NYC metro area, she enjoys writing erotica, eating Nilla wafers and giggling at the word "balls".