Category: pondering

My Blogging Story

I was talking to a good friend of mine who complained that I don’t talk about myself enough on my own blog. Honestly I don’t think I’m the world’s most interesting person – but to appease a buddy I wrote and submitted a blogging story to the Black Weblogs Awards and I’d thought I’d share it with all of you.


Everyone Wins at Strip Guitar HeroI started BlasianBytch.com in my senior year of college. I was a broke overworked fulltime student with 3 jobs one of which was exotic dancing.

It started out as a AdultFriend Finder blog, I was a little shocked that the ramblings of a chubby co-ed stripper would be so popular with so many different types of people.   I expanded to a platform that facilitated better communication and then my own domain.

I had a very interesting time talking about the humorous side of sex and sexuality for an entire year before I moved to my own domain.   Writing was my way of reclaiming myself and giving myself a voice.  As a professional journalist and an exotic dancer you are trained to have a certain level of detachment with your subject matter.  Blogging is completely different and made me feel like I reclaimed that little piece of humanity lost to become a journalist/booty shaker. Continue reading “My Blogging Story”

Blasianbytch.xxx?

So , the ICANN Board has decided to move along with the giving porn sites their own top tier domain.  While its created quite a stir in the adult community with concerns about censorship and price gouging the people that are really going to be screwed is everyone else.

You see the .xxx domain isn’t going to do much, its not going to magically clean up the internet and its not going to make porn harder for children to find.  If your kid has access to any search engine with an image search they can find all the porn they want.  So what will the .xxx domain do?  It’s going to make everyone with a commercial business , organization or well known site have to now purchase a .xxx domain. Continue reading “Blasianbytch.xxx?”

Anri Suzuki is not a Silly Bitch and the Japan Probe Can Eat Dicks

Anri Suzuki not a stupid bitch
Not a silly bitch

So as it turns out the Korea Times did a bit of lazy journalism and in turned painted one Anri Suzuki in a poor light.   So BlasianBytch.com says “Sorry” for calling you a silly scally wag. Continue reading “Anri Suzuki is not a Silly Bitch and the Japan Probe Can Eat Dicks”

Vote For Me as Sex Blog of the Year at the Black Weblog Awards!

Please Vote for Me!

I was nominated for a few categories, but the only ones I think I truly am up to parr in are the Best Sex or Relationship Blog  and Blog to Watch Nominee. Continue reading “Vote For Me as Sex Blog of the Year at the Black Weblog Awards!”

N’jaila’s Mailbag: Strippers, Race and Writing

Nothing has surprised me more since starting this blog than the amount of email I get from readers.  I never really expected much feedback and I’m always happy when I get it.  I have noticed somewhat of a disturbing trend in my emails.  Here is a recent one.

While I absolutely love getting feedback from the people who enjoy my work, I’m going to have to ask for comments like these to stop. Poor grammar and spelling aside this email is part of a disturbing trend I see.  You see this particular reader is complaining because my stories aren’t stereotypical enough.

Continue reading “N’jaila’s Mailbag: Strippers, Race and Writing”

Save a Horse, Ride a Korean! : Ktown Cowboys

Ktown Cowboys

I know I’m late in the game, as I’m based on the east coast and wasn’t able to make it to the premiere of the movie but I was able to watch webisodes.  I’ll be honest I assumed that I was going to hate this.  It was getting buzz like that Yellow Fever movie that everyone seemed delighted by and I wanted to set on fire.  I’m happy to say that I find this series so far, engaging charming and funny.

Continue reading “Save a Horse, Ride a Korean! : Ktown Cowboys”

Do You Know What May is?

National Masturbation Month!!!

It is actually stroke awareness month

Yes,  May is known for many things ,  including  National Stroke Month it is also :

  • Asian American History Month
  • South Asian/ Indian Month
  • Military Forces Appreciation Month

For me May is one of my favorite months because it is set aside to help people get in touch with themselves.  As someone that used to be very against masturbation , I know how hard it is especially for women to start to appreciate their bodies. Continue reading “Do You Know What May is?”

Justin Long Takes a Stand, by Sitting Out on I/R Porn

This is a response to Justin Long’s Op-Ed on Luke is Back.

Justin Long Takes a Stand

After reading Justin Long’s frank and open op-ed, I had many questions -Why didn’t this happen already? Will others follow? Will there be a backlash?  One thing I never questioned was the frustration and anger behind his choice or my support of it.

The designation of substandard “otherness” has always been imposed on black bodies; the same script has titillated the American public since Birth of a Nation.  Even as more racial and ethnic groups enter the gamut they are still weighed on the white vs. black scale. You see it everywhere, politics, entertainment and most openly the sex industry.

I would like to say that I’m 100% for everyone getting the opportunity to be depicted as  sensual and whole beings. I support everyone fucking.  Most of the erotica I write is categorized as interracial.  My support of Justin Long’s choice is not about my own issues with race mixing.  I will admit that I am not a porn actress; and actually don’t consume a great deal of heterosexual porn.  I am, however, an exotic dancer as well as a journalist who writes and reads a great deal about sex, gender and media. I’m also a mixed race Black woman. Continue reading “Justin Long Takes a Stand, by Sitting Out on I/R Porn”

5 Things You See in Porn You Shouldn’t Do While Having Sex

Pornography is consumed by all types of people, and indulges our wildest fantasies but many forget that it’s just that – a fantasy. I know I’ve been with men that seem to not grasp that simple fact. Watching porn will not teach you how to be the world greatest lover no more than watching ER will make you a doctor. To spare the vaginas and moral of up and coming lovers I’ve made a list of the 5 Things You See in Porn That You Should Never Actually Do During Sex Continue reading “5 Things You See in Porn You Shouldn’t Do While Having Sex”

So not everyone was happy being an April Fool

So, I got a lot of people REALLY good with my April Fool’s day joke. My cell was ringing off the hook and people were leaving tearful messages and all. I think I meat spin’d at least 140 people.  While I think I deserve some sort of medal for that alone, I feel a ting of troll remorse.  I love a good joke but, I gave my best friend a heart attack and now Mr.Chien is disappointed that there’s no porn.

Since I can’t personally make it up to all my readers like I can for my besties and Mr.Chien, I figure I can at least throw you guys a deal or two.    So  below are two coupons you can use to purchase toy from Adam and Eve! Continue reading “So not everyone was happy being an April Fool”

Boys Vs Toys II

Stop thinking you are at war with an intimate object for your girl’s pussy, because I hate to break it to you but you already lost. Its her pussy, always has been and always will be. How she chooses to orgasm is up to her. There’s really no sense in fighting it. Vibrators are here to stay and they were your own invention.

The Battle that Rages Only in the Mind of Heterosexual Men

Part Two

Who’s Pussy Is This?

Masturbation happens its been happening since the evolution of complex sexual creatures. Humans do it, dolphins, chimps and a plethora of other animals.  Despite it being a completely natural and healthy occurrence thanks to those wacky repressed Victorians and a few bible verses most of the western world has shunned touching themselves. Continue reading “Boys Vs Toys II”

Toys Vs Boys?

The Battle that Rages Only in the Mind of Heterosexual Men

Part one

Where do Vibrators come from ?

This may shock you but not to long ago I was one of the many women who did not masturbate, especially not with any kind of device or apparatus to assist me.  Sometimes it’s little hard for me to be so open about self-pleasure.   One of those moments came up recently when I was showing a dear friend my blog for the first time.

This young man is very sharp, liberal minded and open in most regards to sexuality. One of the few fellows that treated me just as well after he found out I was a dancer as he did before he knew.  I was showing him some of my writing on his Black Berry and the topic of sex toys came up.  He said very seriously “No girl of mine is going to be using a vibrator” Continue reading “Toys Vs Boys?”

Why Valentines Day can fuck right off : The frustration of a postmodern stripper

February 14, Its nestled so innocently in what would otherwise be my favorite month.  Every February of my compulsory education was spent finally learning about Black people.  Growing up this was a once a year event and I was always inspired.  In February I felt I had the potential to do anything,  go to the moon, be president, invent the next big whatever- like all the people before me I could make my mark on the world.

Continue reading “Why Valentines Day can fuck right off : The frustration of a postmodern stripper”

10 Things You Need to Pack a “Ho”Bag.

This week my younger cousin moved into her first dorm.  As I sat in the car with her, she asked me to share with her the most important thing I learned in college.  A few things were running in my mind as a took a pause to think.  She then amended her question to “what’s the most useful thing you learned in college?”

Without hesitation I answered.  “What to put in your ho bag.”

What is a ho bag , you ask?   Ever gone to a club and seen chicks with those big ass purses and you can’t for the life of you think as to why they would bother with such cumbersome loads in a crowed ass club.  Those women are planing on being ho’s for the night. Those  satchels will see them through to the next morning.   It not just for clubs, or the random hook up its a college essential!

If there is one time in one’s life when they can act bat-shit stupid and get away with it, its college.  Let’s face it the only difference between college and Vegas is that in college the  sex is free. Continue reading “10 Things You Need to Pack a “Ho”Bag.”

Welcome to BlasianBytch.com

Welcome! 환영, 독자.

This is the inaugural post of BlasianBytch.com.   All the previous posts were imported from The Blasian Bytch Blog.

part asian, part black ALL BYTCH

I’ve been waiting for this moment for a while.  I waited for a day that holds some significance to me, this is the day I started blogging.  It’s the day that I had the courage to give my writing a vehicle.  This is also the anniversary of the day I stopped being a student journalist and became a self published writer.

Obviously this site isn’t 100% what I envisioned it to be yet so stay with me.  I promise to bring more erotica, toy reviews and zany what the fuck sex products in very soon.

The best part about having my own site is I now am under no restrictions as to what I can and cannot post, other than my what my own good tastes deny me.  Which means more erotic art and photography  and in the foreseeable future erotic comics for my readers to enjoy.

So thank you to those that have been with me from the beginning and welcome to the people that will be with me ’till end.

Now, I’m going to get my smut writing on.

Kisses,

Jaila

The Smutt Must FLOW!!

A dune reference.
Anyway, I have to apologize for the little hiatus I’ve taken, it was partly due to the holidays, but mostly it was because I’m working on something pretty big for this blog. Something that I hope will give me more freedom and a way to really be able to have more control of how I publish and what I’m able to publish.
Its hard for me to believe that I’ve been blogging an entire year almost! A year of sex, laughs, tears and personal growth. I’m planing a big move for my one year anniversary so I hope all my faithful followers will support me and bear with me through this transition.
I’m at a point in my life where literally the world is my oyster, I’m fresh out of college, single and in a position to go anywhere and do anything. Hopefully you readers , my fellow smut lovers, will be willing to be along for the ride. Hopefully I’ll have another year of laugh, tears , growth and oh yeah, a lot cock. I really can’t stress how much I love cock.

A Room of One’s Own

I know I haven’t posted in a little bit, don’t worry I’m not abandoning ship. Why would I do this when this ship is almost turning one old!.

I’ve simply been thinking of the future. That future is my own domain, and more freedom. I want to be able to have longer chapter based stories , more illustrations, more interviews just MORE!

A lot of things are going to be changing for me, starting a career, my own business and being single for the first time since high school. My life is changing and this blog is changing too.

For the past few weeks I’ve been using the few spar hours I have to convert my brother’s breakfast nook into my small office space/ writing area. I love him so much for supporting me with this and losing his kitchen table in the process.

Its been a little hard because My birthday is coming up and I always feel some hardcore blues around that time. Its on Dec. 19th the same day as my slain uncle. It will be hard to enjoy this day because he won’t ever have another birthday.

Things will be picking up, new WIP will be posted in fact very soon I’ll be posting Another Day in the Office. Here’s a sneak peak.

Another Day At the Office

Jalia stood in front of the copier. The job he sent for her was large enough for two but he knew her pride barred her from asking for help. She would be collating and stapling for the next hour at least. Cursing his name the whole time yet obediently following his directions.

Her thick sable tresses hid the ear bud connected to her IPod Shuffle tucked discreetly in her bra. He only guessed she had them in by the way her head bobbed to the beat and her hips slightly swayed.

She was wearing a pair of shoes he bought for her for the first time, it was always exciting for him when she wore one if his gifts to the office. It reminded him that no matter home many times she winked at the Fed Ex guy or how funny she finds Partiv from Tech support she was his girl. He knew that his cock only satisfied her lust.

More to come soon!

The Blasian Blues


I had a great time at the Hell-o-Ween BBW Bash on Sunday. For all of you that didn’t go ( which is EVERYONE that told me they were going to go) you missed a really fun time.

I have to admit I was in a piss-y mood for the first 20 mins or so. The promoter introduced me to the bouncer, who was inquiring about my name. The promoter said, She’s Black and Korean, the bouncer started laughing at me. He guffawed and said ,You ain’t half nothing you a regular ass black chick.

I don’t know why people constantly want to remind me that I’m black. I’ve never claimed not to be, shit in this instance I never even brought it up, someone else did. I’m well aware that I look black. Of course I do. I AM BLACK. I came from the loins of a black woman. Why does it surprise people that I don’t look like a choco-dipped geisha girl. My mother is a very beautiful dark skinned woman. I did not get her skin tone, I got my a mix of her and my father. I do not have stereotypical “Asian” eyes. Newsflash neither does my father. His eyes have a fold.

Why do people think I’m denying my blackness or trying to diminish it by acknowledging who the fuck I am.

So for anyone that ever meets me, please refrain from all forms of this. This means the whole, “you don’t look Asian?” thing too. I never said I looked Asian motherfuckers. My dad is. My mother isn’t. Should it really be shocking that I look like my Mom?

Do I have to bring a punnet square around with me every bloody place I go so I can explain genes and trait heredity to people?