Dear Internet People- I Am Not Your Fetish Object

Dear People on the Internet,

I am on websites like Adultfriendfinder and Fetlife to explore my sexuality and fetishes- not to be your fetish object.  I know this might be a confusing concept for some of you out there, but women of color have their kinks and turn-ons as well.  While some women might be open to race play many are not.  I’m the latter.  Continue reading “Dear Internet People- I Am Not Your Fetish Object”

N’jaila Goes Bananas!

[pullquote] Wanna watch me talking about Asian dicks and porn star health insurance? [/pullquote]I’m finally back from Banana 2 the event I’ve been talking about for months. I actually got back on Tuesday but thanks to some questionable sushi I was out of commission for a bit. Banana 2 took place in Studio City, Los Angeles and it was only my 2nd time in LA. The first time I spent about 3 hours in LA having Pho with Rick Lee.

I can say with no hyperbole that it was one of the proudest and most amazing experiences of my life. Not only did I get to hear men and women who I’ve respected and admired for years but got to meet and speak with them.

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A Good Day to be Black and Sexy?

Blasian Booty
This is my ass.

This is my ass.

For the last ten or so years every form of mass media has told me that this is not only the best way of measuring my worth as a Black woman, its also innately low class while being the only reason any man would put up with me.

My Black ass, a gift and a curse. Continue reading “A Good Day to be Black and Sexy?”

N’jaila LIVE on the Alter Negro Sho “No Valentine’s”

The Non-Productive Network’s “Alter Negro Sho” presents ‘No-Valentine’s Day’ The newest episode of ANS will talk about life, love, relationships and Sex. Definitely Sex.

I’ll be on at 9 pm EST you can listen in on www.non-productive.com Continue reading “N’jaila LIVE on the Alter Negro Sho “No Valentine’s””

Breaking Up with Mr. Mid-Life Crisis

My pussy is going on strike. I’ve decided for the remainder of the year to be celibate and continue to be celibate for as long as I can until I find a worthy partner.  The first step for me was trying to tie up all the loose ends of booty calls and sorta boyfriends of the past that kept popping up trying to get some poon.  It was taking too long to individually address them all so I wrote this so I could just send them the link when they come calling.

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Exxxotica NJ Day 3 and What I learned

Day three of Exxxotica had me completely exhausted and I was so lucky to have funny man Ryan O’Regan on hand to help me with interviews. This was really his day to shine he interviewed Lisa Ann, Sunny Lane, Lupe Fuentes and so many more people. It was like he was born to interview porn stars! Continue reading “Exxxotica NJ Day 3 and What I learned”

Helping a Burning Angel Recover

Exxxotica NJ out did itself again this year.  Not only did it bring the stars, products and entertainment but they added an entire new car show into the mix.

Needless to say I had a blast I did tons of interviews took over 400 pictures.  I will be posting my frist hand account full of hot chicks in lingerie and zany interviews on Thurs.  I thought I’d talk about something a little more important frist.

Sadly not everything was fun and games at Exxxotica this year, Joanna Angel and Jessie Lee of Burning Angel were in a car crash. Joanna is all right but Jessie Lee is seriously injured.

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N’jaila on the G Spot

I got to do a wonderful interview with the ladies of the G Spot, they really got me to open up about growing up different, Asian Cocks and being a coed at Rutgers.


My Vanilla Job is Killing me! But my Readers Keep me ALIVE!

No not in the soul crushing denying the artist within kind of way. In the very literal toxic dust in my lungs sort of way.   If you haven’t noticed post went on kind of a halt for the past week.  That is mostly due to the fact that I was struggling to breath.  Its very hard to blog when you’re slipping in and out of consciousness.

Don’t worry there’s a shit ton of stuff I’ve been working on that I cannot wait to post  I’ve done some amazing interviews and not to mention found some very wacky products that you guys have to see to believe.  Continue reading “My Vanilla Job is Killing me! But my Readers Keep me ALIVE!”

Blasian Bytch on Dating Blasian

I’ve been asked to write a opinion or advice piece for Asian men on many occasions this is the first time I’ve taken a serious approach to the subject.

I know for many I might be a strange woman, I’m a Black identified woman who through fate and circumstance found myself involved with almost exclusively Asian men.   I don’t think this makes me any kind of expert on Asian Male Black Women relations but J.T the Asian Playboy asked me to write and so I shall.

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Call Me the Dildo Fairy! Purveyor of Festive Dongs

If you haven’t noticed by now, on the side bar and on the menu bar there is a link to the Vibrant Vibes sex toy store.  I really wanted to make it easier for my readers to find good quality personal love items that won’t break the bank.

Purveyor of Festive DongsThe Dildo Fairy

Yes they have expensive ass Lelo toys (which I love) but they also have pretty awesome vibrating bullets for around 3 or 4 dollars. You just can’t beat that.  Orgasms for the price of a value meal? I’m lovin’ it.

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Not a Review of Crumble

This post is not a review of Adult super star Brittany Andrews’ Discipline FilmWorks short film Crumble, which has been nominated for Best Director and Best Short Film and stars Steven Bauer and Oksana Lada.   This post is not about attending its premiere at the New York International Independent Film and Video Festival on July 24th.

This post is the harrowing tale of everything that went wrong preventing me from seeing the film.

Saturday July 24, 2010 was supposed to be a fun day filled with romance, productivity and a movie premiere.

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Do I have an impersonal Personal Blog??

So this weekend I went out with my girls and the topic of my site came up. They all support me, I know that but they don’t seem as keen to the idea of me covering the adult industry as they were a few months ago.   I think some suspect that I’ll be smooth talked into making a porn movie. 6X5VSJJFAAV7

I think only one word could describe the visage of me naked on film.

Terrorism.

Rest assured I would never let such images be available for public viewing.

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Ch-Ch-Changes!

You might have noticed things look a little different, and by that I mean A LOT different.  For those of you not following me on facebook or twitter you may not know the drama and epic code battle that I raged yesterday.  I was hacked.  It was sort of my fault.

I didn’t have much in the way of help when I made BlasianBytch.com.  While I’ve taken some CSS and HTML classes I’m extremely far from a  web designer.  So when it came to getting a theme I found a few I liked and spliced them together using a WP code book I found at a used book sale for dollar.  Needless to say I left the door open to hackers. Continue reading “Ch-Ch-Changes!”

My Blogging Story

I was talking to a good friend of mine who complained that I don’t talk about myself enough on my own blog. Honestly I don’t think I’m the world’s most interesting person – but to appease a buddy I wrote and submitted a blogging story to the Black Weblogs Awards and I’d thought I’d share it with all of you.


Everyone Wins at Strip Guitar Hero
I started BlasianBytch.com in my senior year of college. I was a broke overworked fulltime student with 3 jobs one of which was exotic dancing.

It started out as a AdultFriend Finder blog, I was a little shocked that the ramblings of a chubby co-ed stripper would be so popular with so many different types of people.   I expanded to a platform that facilitated better communication and then my own domain.

I had a very interesting time talking about the humorous side of sex and sexuality for an entire year before I moved to my own domain.   Writing was my way of reclaiming myself and giving myself a voice.  As a professional journalist and an exotic dancer you are trained to have a certain level of detachment with your subject matter.  Blogging is completely different and made me feel like I reclaimed that little piece of humanity lost to become a journalist/booty shaker. Continue reading “My Blogging Story”

Anri Suzuki is not a Silly Bitch and the Japan Probe Can Eat Dicks

Anri Suzuki not a stupid bitch
Not a silly bitch

So as it turns out the Korea Times did a bit of lazy journalism and in turned painted one Anri Suzuki in a poor light.   So BlasianBytch.com says “Sorry” for calling you a silly scally wag. Continue reading “Anri Suzuki is not a Silly Bitch and the Japan Probe Can Eat Dicks”

Japanese Pornstar says “My bad we invaded China here- free pussy”

And she’s a silly, silly bitch for doing so.

Anri Suzuki
Apologizing for crimes against humanity.

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N’jaila’s Mailbag: Strippers, Race and Writing

Nothing has surprised me more since starting this blog than the amount of email I get from readers.  I never really expected much feedback and I’m always happy when I get it.  I have noticed somewhat of a disturbing trend in my emails.  Here is a recent one.

While I absolutely love getting feedback from the people who enjoy my work, I’m going to have to ask for comments like these to stop. Poor grammar and spelling aside this email is part of a disturbing trend I see.  You see this particular reader is complaining because my stories aren’t stereotypical enough.

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So not everyone was happy being an April Fool

So, I got a lot of people REALLY good with my April Fool’s day joke. My cell was ringing off the hook and people were leaving tearful messages and all. I think I meat spin’d at least 140 people.  While I think I deserve some sort of medal for that alone, I feel a ting of troll remorse.  I love a good joke but, I gave my best friend a heart attack and now Mr.Chien is disappointed that there’s no porn.

Since I can’t personally make it up to all my readers like I can for my besties and Mr.Chien, I figure I can at least throw you guys a deal or two.    So  below are two coupons you can use to purchase toy from Adam and Eve! Continue reading “So not everyone was happy being an April Fool”